It was exactly 9 months ago I wrote this article. 9 Months later something's been borne here. The site has given birth to some activities which are too unbecoming of people who call themselves young professional adults. Something which I don't like. Something I know alot of people don't like. Something I'm finding very hard to name as all the names I can think of are so not very nice. Simply put; there's too much of lenyatso (someone please provide another version...Zulu/English?) on this site. And THIS blog is where we'll all address it.
This blog is not for me or anyone else to hate on anyone/anything else. It is not about pointing the finger, it's not a playground for those that are too bored with their work/lives; cause we all know misery loves company. Like I said, it's issues that need to be addressed and address them we will. After all, I am an intelligent young woman and will give everyone the benefit of the doubt and say we are all young intelligent people who can converse in a mutually beneficial manner. These are 5 Reasons Why some of y'all needs to take a step back and reassess some of your attitudes:
1. Language
Freedom of expression in a language of your choice is a beautiful thing. But it becomes unbearable and discomforting when it is used in a manner whereby some of the other people who were in on the conversation are being left to fend for themselves. We all can't possibly speak the same language. What's wrong with a little courtesy of expressing yourself in a manner everyone will understand? This creates a sense of isolation...as if you (the one that doesn't understand the language) are not wanted. Sometimes even in your own blog. I find it highly disrespectful. If you can read and write all 11 official languages GOOD FOR YOU! But not everyone's like you, we are all unique individuals. An eyesore nhe? Too much of a hard time reading that? Now do you get what I mean? Good. Now go back, highlight the paragraph and read again.
2. Cliques
This site is a wonderful platform to form friends and networks. I myself have met and have befriended alot of people from this site. It's a beautiful thing. However, you and your clique really shouldn't feel the need to dominate a blog and think you're the IT of TVSA. Quite simply put there are people here aba delelayo. They are rude and immature. Again, there is no need to always be on the defensive. And hiding behind the face of anonymity is so juvenile. We are all adults here and are not here to mother/father anyone. And no one has a mother/daddy here...unless I missed something. So please behave in a manner that's appropriate for someone your age and with your level of integrity. That is, if you have any.
3. The constant bickering
This more or less goes with point no2. As I said, there's nothing wrong with having your own set of friends but bickering and getting all your "mates" to back you up and join in on the fight is just so not right. Like I said we are all adults. Name calling is a big issue. Unless it's said in an affectionate way let's all not put people against a wall please. I could think of so many horrible names to name some people here but I CHOOSE not to. Choice, the right choice, so such an attractive quality. Some things are just too beyond me. As young intelligent people, they should be beyond you too.
4. Abuse of power
Anonymity is power. No one said those of us who have managed to maintain their anonymity; should go out of their way to belittle others and hide behind their anonymity. It's wrong. I'm sure whoever raised you raised you with some manners. I finally got some last night. Oh right! This blog is about the 5 Reasons...I'll take my offtopic topic soomewhere else...like say maybe pm or email or even a phone call. Better yet someone was bright enough to come up with the Off Topic blog. Take it there! This is home yes but please treat it with the respect and decency it deserves. Treat people's blogs like how you would want to be treated.
And finally...some common ground...
5. Seeing eye to eye
The world wasn't meant for everyone to become happy budding pals. At the same time it does not mean people who have no liking for each other can't at all try and find some common ground. Young intelligent people know how to live and let live. And if you can't there are other ways of ignoring someone without going out of your way to snub them.
Blogging is a wonderful thing. I love this site. I am not going anywhere. Just like I know alot of people are not going anywhere. So if anyone thinks they are the shiz and will dominate and sit on the rest of us...go right ahead and try. But remember, nisi thole la, nizo si shiya la! (You found us here, you will leave us here!) And this my friend, is NOT playa hating. There's more than enough room for anyone...and more!
Spread the love y'all!