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Is she a Domestic Worker or a Family Member?

Written by Shuga babe from the blog Suger B on 01 Oct 2008
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How is your Domestic worker treating u?

When me and my 2 siblings were growing up actually we were teenagers, my Mom hired u-Anti Mable*, to help at the house. Mom was always traveling on business.
But instead of Anti Mable washing dishes, cleaning the house or doing everything she was hired to do, she’d order us to go clean our bedroom, fold our clothes and wash dishes after every meal.

Always on the phone!!

Tell me I must go to Virginity Testing, because I seem like that type ethanda abafana how come my mom let me use Tampons if I’m a vargin why not use ordinary pads. Wasishintshisa yonke into, shame umama wami ulunge kakhulu

When my mom and my dad got divorced, my dad use to fetch us to visit him. But we were so shock to here Mable telling our dad not to come to our house again if she want us to visit him he must talk to her first even if he did tell my mom but he has to tell her too.

Anti Mable use to work for a White family where she’d wash even under wears and earn less than a R1000.00 but when she was helping @ our house she earned more than a thousand rand. But treating us bad.

I’m not trying to be rude but I feel that o- anti abasizayo they don’t do their best when they work for BLACK families. They just layback and boss u around. Bakhulume nezindaba ezingabafanele.

Even at work when u black your office get cleaned once a week and you have to make your own coffee. While white and Indians get cup of coffee like 20 times a day their desks always shining.

Do u treat your domestic worker as the part of your family or u treat them as a domestic worker nothing more nothing less?

Not real name*

53 Comments

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 05:56

Really guys O-Anti abasizayo abenzi kahle when it comes to Black families.

carino
01 Oct 2008 05:59

hehehehh <<<<shaking my head>>>>>

pawagie
01 Oct 2008 06:01

number 3..to reply..yipeee

Cande
01 Oct 2008 06:02

tl tl tl..LOL
UAntie MArble was intefering in family politics..haiye mina ngeke ndimamele usisi who has been hired to clean after us when she tells me to clean after myself

Firstdvd
01 Oct 2008 06:04

But not all of them are like uAnti Mable

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 06:06

uAnti Mabe ubengomnye umuntu nje, angifisi aphinde abuye hehehehe!!!!!!!!!

pawagie
01 Oct 2008 06:08

on a serious note...abo-aunty prefer white families..not blacks...maybe thina amablacks we nasty...and white families are nice....or maybe at the white families they get frre clothes and left overs or food that has been i n the fridge or pantry for so long..
us blacks-with our clothes u wont give away coz jus after u there is Nono,sandra and ayanda....so no chance of aunty getting any free clothes...

as 4 food thina u know us bantu abamnyama -we eat....lapho we never go wrong..so no extra food for aunty..

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 06:09

"But not all of them are like uAnti Mable" Firstdvd u right . but mina laba engisababonile bayafana naye.

look u Sara we Generations uyangenela kwi Family affairs, namaphupho akhe angasile. usezenza ilunga lomndeni just like Anti Mable.

Firstdvd
01 Oct 2008 06:11

I'm with u on dat 1 Pawagie! Jah lets look @ how we treat them 1st

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 06:11

"or maybe at the white families they get frre clothes and left overs or food that has been i n the fridge or pantry for so long.." pawagie, hahahaha!!!!!!!!!

WhiteSockGirl
01 Oct 2008 06:13

The woman that helps me in the house is an absolute darling. I went through a couple before I got to her.... I have to travel a lot and am not domesticated at all, and the women that I employed before her, they had long fingers.

Dorothea, who works for me, has a little problem. Alcohol. When she gets her salary at the end of the month,.. she does not pitch for work the first couple of days of the month. Like today, she is a no show. But I made peace with it, because I will not trade her for any of the sober ladies that I had to deal with before her. When my colleagues are complaining about their domestics workers, I just smile to myself cause I striked it lucky,...

WhiteSockGirl
01 Oct 2008 06:13

HARAMBE24
01 Oct 2008 06:14

Nice article Shuga babe but ke mna i am worried about ure name " Shuga babe" it s too close to "Brown Shuga" and nna its confusing me....who is writing ntho tsena mara?

LM
01 Oct 2008 06:16

http://www.women24.com/Women24/ChatWin/Sbu_Mpungose/Article/0,,1-2-162_18357,00.html

Toxic
01 Oct 2008 06:18

Yho, bayafana shem. Once they get used to the new surroundings and how to operate the "microwave", they become family members!

JadaPinkett
01 Oct 2008 06:20

Yazi uqinisile we Shuga Babe kwimanje nje udlula nenkomishi yetiye yomuntu oseliphuza kwesi 4 but if kwimina she used to say peoplew they can't even make them thier cup of tea and everytime if she has to clean my desk she use to "The Boss alwayz clean his office when he comes to the office" That's mean I must clean my desk anyway I don't mind to clean my desk sometime I feel so ashamed for her if she clean my desk but if ngilalelisisa thingz that she talks when she clean my desk kumane kungicacele ukuthi she want me to do it by own self.

belz
01 Oct 2008 06:20

LOL!!!!

Even at work when u black your office get cleaned once a week and you have to make your own coffee. While white and Indians get cup of coffee like 20 times a day their desks always shining. very true!!!!

carino
01 Oct 2008 06:23

Reply from: HARAMBE24 10/1/2008 2:14:32 PM
Nice article Shuga babe but ke mna i am worried about ure name " Shuga babe" it s too close to "Brown Shuga" and nna its confusing me....who is writing ntho tsena mara?

LOL

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 06:25

"i am worried about ure name " Shuga babe" it s too close to "Brown Shuga" and nna its confusing me....who is writing ntho tsena mara"

HARAMBE24, So sorry to confuse u but I love my name as Shuga Babe,
Brown Shuga's Name start with B and mine with S.

LM, thanks for that article, I'v email my sister to read it.

zo
01 Oct 2008 06:26

i think the problem is we call them o anti abasizayo, ther is a difference between ukusiza nokusebenza. with white families they are working with black families they are helping.

JadaPinkett
01 Oct 2008 06:27

Carino plz lady don't say anything bad today, it's better coz u just copied and paste maybe that's better for u to do so and LOL

HARAMBE24
01 Oct 2008 06:27

Shuga babe...you are so forgiven mosadi. I grew up ko boarding - never had much time to know Bo -Antie ko gae coz my mama fired them faster than they could learn to say "madam"

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 06:32

HARAMBE24 I wish your mother was mine. abo anti abasho uabafuni"Madam" bafuna ukukubiza ngegama uma u Black. usuke une luck uma ubuzwa ngo "Madam"

JadaPinkett
01 Oct 2008 06:37

usuke une luck uma ubuzwa ngo "Madam"
Like Ntombi and Sarah in Generations.

lip gloss
01 Oct 2008 06:37

eish guys wat aunt Mable did was out of lyn...................bt dats da way yoku zivisa mnandi if da boss is nt der........n al maids they do UMGOSI so dats nt bad coz it`s their hobbie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

pawagie
01 Oct 2008 06:41

i remember wen i was about 10yrs..this auntie of mine used to bring her boyfriends into the house and she used to tell me & my young sis ukuthi ngo bhudi or her cousins----
like dah''''''we didnt know wat was going on.....
she used to buy us all the goodies to avoid us from telling my mom...
ey mara or auntie.....they always bring comedy and drama into the family..

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 06:47

"i remember wen i was about 10yrs..this auntie of mine used to bring her boyfriends into the house and she used to tell me & my young sis ukuthi ngo bhudi or her cousins----
like dah''''''we didnt know wat was going on..... "

pawagie no Anti Mable wayewaletha aama boyfriend just because ubeqoma izingane ezincane besimkhlwa uma ethu obhuti bakhe. even umfana owayesiza engadini yakamakhelwane babethandana elokhu embiza athi azomfakela i Globe ue light, hihihi!!!!

pawagie
01 Oct 2008 06:53

shuga babe....maybe we are talking about the same autie who later came to work for your family......

Golden Star
01 Oct 2008 07:10

Ya Shuga Babe your name confused me as well especially when you write it as Shuga B... now there's BS and SB but ke it's nothing we can't get over.

Interesting topic but I would also say some black folk treat these sisters like sh!t as well. I am not saying that white people treat them well I am just talking about the people I know. We once had a friend who didn't see anything wrong with working late every weekday and going out till the wee hours of the morning on weekends. The poor helper was on duty 24/7 looking after her kid. When we asked if she'd like it if her employer did that to her she said "you can't compare corporate employees and domestic workers."

So yes some of them can be really really bad but sometimes they are turned into monsters by us.

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 07:18

Golden Star, so sorry again to confuse u but my blog is Surga B.. not Shuga B. but anyway thanks for tuning in!!!

FK
01 Oct 2008 07:19

I have a lady from Lesotho and she's been with us for 8 years now. I see this lady as my helper (we basically help each other). She helps me with cleaning, laundry, baby sitting and cooking, etc and in return I help her financially by paying her a salary at the end of the month. From what I gather from you guys, I am very lucky as in the 8 years, I have not experienced any problems with her.

She has become a family member. She addresses me as Mme and every nite when I go to bed, I get a "turn down" service. I believe the reason we are still together is the fact that I treat her with respect. I let her be and give her the assurace that she is welcome and appreciated. Yes, we do have problems but it is not something that can't be overcome.

I had to teach my daughter as well that she must not see her as a "maid" but someone who is keeping our house organised and making our lives easier.

As I'm always travelling, I need her to teach my daughter the basics i.e. cleaning her room and washing her own underwear and school socks. During school holidays, my daughter is responsible for keeping her bedroom and bathroom clean. We all make our own beds.

I am being treated like a queen. The only thing I do in the house is to make my bed, wash myself and my underwear, eat and sleep. And obviously get to cook over the weekends.

I will not trade her for anyone in this world. And to think that this is our first helper and grew up without one at home, we are coping well with her.

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 07:25

That so sweet FK *with tears in my eyes*

Mnelyza
01 Oct 2008 07:26

we must treat o Aunty kahle then they will treat us nicely in return.
That is what I did with my domestic worker and we've been together for 5 years,both my kids adores her ,the only problem with her is her moods and that she eats like uyahlanya but I can leave with that

PY
01 Oct 2008 07:27

The best thing is too hire u-magogo they are good

PY
01 Oct 2008 07:33

With u FK respect ur helper so that she can be able to respect u....ur kids musn't take her as a maid....and i think the foreign women are also good

DJ Why why
01 Oct 2008 07:46

Dorothea, ..... little problem..... Alcohol..........not pitch for work the first couple of days of the month.

LMAO @ WSG....u sho are understanding....or maybe u dont have kids??

At home we have had maids for as long as I remember, but the worst was Berlina "sis B", may her soul rest in peace! She was at our house for 3 years in rural areas and my uncle needed a maid in Umtata, and she went there. We all jumped up and down with joy! She was caught red handed...smacking a 2 month old because she was "noisy".

While she was our house my 3 year old brother wud cry bitterly when we left for school on Mondays...... (we came home weekends only). He was skinny shame (they even hlabad a goat to beg amadlozi to intervene) and all that time it was Sis B karating the kid!

O weekends he used to be such an attention seeker! Come to think of it he is a bit deaf....Sis B is known well by my siblings and cuzins, she wud throw anything at you, shoe, lemon, spoon, broom uzoythola! hayi loya mama shame wayehamba yedwa...we washed own clothes, cleaned the house and and cooked for the pigs. Mama never did nothing about the complaints.

Mathaz
01 Oct 2008 07:52

The lady who works for me is nice but she needs constant monitoring. If i'm not present at home she will just clean nje but not thorough. This past Saturday i asked her to throw away left overs in the fridge and guess what, she threw my yoghurt, ham and liver spread. I am still shocked and mad. If i buy bread and i take out 4 slices and she makes food for herself, she'll eat about 8 slices of bread. She does not sleep over but i find that she eats too much. I have then decided that when i cook the day before she comes i'll dish out scaftin for yena.

Golden Star
01 Oct 2008 08:00

all that time it was Sis B karating the kid! hahahahahahahahahahahahahahah... Don't you just luuuv black English

maud
01 Oct 2008 08:12

my helper use to take care of my little sister when my mom passed away, she is part of the family, She calls me Mtanami and i say Mama she eats what she wants anytime, my home is always clean, my friends call her Mama also.

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 08:12

abo anti ba used in stealing izinto zokugqoka zabelunga ababasebenzelayo, and abelungi don't even notice ukuthi bantshontshelwe coza they got more than enough clothes unlike thin asizazi almost zonke izimpahla zethu.

omunye u Anti stole shoes from her white employer and gate it to her daughter. the day her visited her she came in wearing izicathula zika Madam and u Madam was there. u Madam get crossed and asked la Anti but u Anti wathi " Madam remember u gave me that big bag with lots clothes and shoes in side, uMadam said "yes " lla Anti wathi these shoes were there" waxolisa u Madam waze wamnika ne Bonus to say sorry.

Pooky
01 Oct 2008 08:36

ROTFLMAO @ uSis B and her moering and lemon throwing tantrums kwa kwa kwa

sponono
01 Oct 2008 08:41

Mathaz>If i buy bread and i take out 4 slices and she makes food for herself, she'll eat about 8 slices of bread

Hi hi hi Mathaz I can imagine you standing by the kitchen counting bread slices...as soon as she's left...........YOH..boMadam haayini madam, (if u can afford a maid surely you can afford to buy LOTS of BREAD...hi hi hi..jus kiddin

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 08:45

"I can imagine you standing by the kitchen counting bread slices...as soon as she's left...........YOH".. kwa kwakwa hihihi!!!!!!!!!! u guys are so funny. hahaha>>>>>>>

WhiteSockGirl
01 Oct 2008 08:48

<<<Dorothea, ..... little problem..... Alcohol..........not pitch for work the first couple of days of the month.

LMAO @ WSG....u sho are understanding....or maybe u dont have kids??>>>

DJ,.. lol No, I do not have kids... but I seriously would rather deal with her and little problem which I am very aware off and organize my life accordingly. I can't deal with surprises.

Like I told a friend,... at least she is motivated,... she has a reason for working... to get a salary,.. to buy alcohol.

belz
01 Oct 2008 08:48

LOL!!!!

sponono
01 Oct 2008 08:56

Like I told a friend,... at least she is motivated,... she has a reason for working... to get a salary,.. to buy alcohol.

LOL WSG...GOOD POINT....some people are better left alone wiht their vices...so long as she's got the strength to work wheneva she's back--and DONT even THINK of buyin it for her...

PY
01 Oct 2008 09:00

Not sure whether its a joke or did this really happened

This aunty stole the teabags from her white madam...and put it in her breasts(unaware that the top was not covered well)....after work when this madam went to drop her (aunt) off to the bus stop...the madam saw the teabags...in the aunt' s chest...and the aunt said goodbye mam see u tomorrow...and the madam replied bye-bye TEABAGS...shocked!!!!

sponono
01 Oct 2008 09:11

somebody said
if you treat me with suspicion I will do suspicious things....same goes for abo-aunti.....y'all are always thinkin they are up to something...and they will BE up to sumthin

Shuga babe
01 Oct 2008 09:16

Wow PY, i wish i was there to see the look on Anti's face.

Strolicious
01 Oct 2008 09:42

wow nice article,mina ekhaya 2 weeks wld be enough,my grandpa wld shaya them,uma bengafuni ukuqoma phela.....can imagine you standing by the kitchen counting bread slices...as soon as she's left...........Sponono dat a killer(classic0

Floh
02 Oct 2008 14:01

Yes, they all not the same.

When me and my 2 siblings were growing up actually we were teenagers, my Mom hired u-Anti Mable*, to help at the house. Mom was always traveling on business.
But instead of Anti Mable washing dishes, cleaning the house or doing everything she was hired to do, she’d order us to go clean our bedroom, fold our clothes and wash dishes after every meal.
I think she was preparing you guys for the future than being izingulube who lazy around not even sweep your bedroom.

I also grew up around abo Auntie, but my dad made it clear that she only need to do the cooking while we are at school and in the evening we take responsibility and that made me the woman I am today, am not afraid of my chores, never spoiled by abo Auntie.

I now have a baby and had 2 worst nanies you can ever think of, they will leave my baby alone while sleeping bahambe bayojola ema tekisini. and now I have the one who I can't trade with anything like WSG said, she 's a darling have a great bond with my girl and one of my aunties even said we need to make more babies so she won't leave us. LoL

Her responsibilities are to make sure that my girl eats, goes to creche clean, take her to the gate and wait for a her taxi to school and wait for her at the gate from creche,
For household chores it' snot her responsibility but she can help.

I have two nieces growing up, they do the dishes, clean the house thouroughly on weekends and they even cook. its the rule.

So what i am trying to say, don't hire an Auntie to be your slave meet her half way, they will love you.

Shuga babe
03 Oct 2008 04:58

"I think she was preparing you guys for the future than being izingulube who lazy around not even sweep your bedroom. " Floh,
just coz u don't want your kids to be izingulube doesn't mean anti can't make their bed, wash thier dishes, they can do that like once or twice but anti must always be there as a helper, WTF hire u anti if u can manage well without her.

tracy
06 Oct 2008 04:04

I think its all about the person u hired some are good some you will wish you had not met them but I blame your mother becoz she didnt put her foot down from the first day thats why lo aunt did all this

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