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Is blood thicker than love or lobola

Written by andi01 from the blog Is Blood thicker than love on 23 Jan 2009
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Is blood thicker than lobola ??????

I met this guy 14 years ago, had a childhood crush on him, but he was older so I didn’t follow my heart. At the time he had just broken up with my cousin. Anyways 10 years later I meet this guy, am still head over hills with him. We hook up and all goes well. 10 months down the line he wants us to get married, I am excited, he is ambitious an then problems arise.

Problem 1

My cuz that he was involved with is hating my guts. She bad mouths me to my sister in law and gives me and my man prank calls. I ignore this because she is married with 2 kids and I think if she really was concerned she could have spoken 2 me than acting childishly. She is however 7 yrs older than me.

Problem 2

My half brother (same father), is related to my man. His mother and my father in law are from the same family. So my ½brother and his mother’s sister reckon its not right that we should marry. My man and my ½brother are related that makes us relatives as well.

Now tell me if you were in my shoes what would you do.

Should I consider my cousin’s feelings and leave my soulmate
Should I listened 2 my half-brother and refuse to marry the only man I have ever loved

I am confused???

126 Comments

andi01
23 Jan 2009 13:41

come guys, lets talk

Toodecent
23 Jan 2009 13:47

So you left ME for such a mess?

cleve
23 Jan 2009 13:48

Andi I am shocked. Phela wena you always have answers for everyone's problems.

Let me go back and read.

Dimago
23 Jan 2009 13:50

You cant marry your relative....

Strolicious
23 Jan 2009 13:58

Andi wena you not related to ur man so do da ryt thing and marry him.........You cant marry your relative....Dimago they r not related..he is related to his ½brother ....

babetm
23 Jan 2009 14:01

it takes a life time to meet yo soul mate and if you happen to meet yo soulmate never let go no matter what the people say.

as long as he is not your mother's child or yo fathers and as long as u dont hav the same surname why not marry him.

to be honest we are all relatives in this planet because in the begining God didn't create thousand people he created adam and eve and from there those two started having kids bla bla bla....until we were formed.

as long as you love each other nothing matters

Cande
23 Jan 2009 14:04

is this Steve?

nice
23 Jan 2009 14:06

You have cooked yourself a hot mess there lady, how are you going to sort it out!!!

Should I consider my cousin’s feelings and leave my soulmate

Your cousin is married and by refusing the two of you the chance to be together is selfishness on her part. but tell me though how did you feel when they were still going out? Did you ever look at her man in that way (you know ), weren't you jealous of the two of them?

Should I listened 2 my half-brother and refuse to marry the only man I have ever loved

technically, you and this man are not blood related, so I dont think it will be a problem. Afterall we all came from Adam and Eve and we are somehow related, lol.

pullie
23 Jan 2009 14:06

i agree wit babetm besides u guys aint related @ all...thz cld b ur man dear so hold on2 him & in african culture ppl used 2 get married 2 their cousins bk then "kgomo di boela sakeng" so rily i'd say go 4 tha guy!

he's not ur mum nor ur dad's child or even a close relative 4 tht matter...........

Dimago
23 Jan 2009 14:09

Dimago they r not related..he is related to his ½brother ....
Bantu Stro...LOL...

what aka mathata
23 Jan 2009 14:17

m,how old are you?

cleve
23 Jan 2009 14:22

Follow your heart and put your feelings first. What people say will come later and don't care about them because at the end of the day you will be the one living with the consequences of your actions. so no-one must make decisions which direction your life must take.

BigMama
23 Jan 2009 14:22

This is what l hate about our African culture, we just become families with people who are not even of our on blood, just because so and so got married now they are my relatives.

Does that happen to white people, l am just asking don´t get me wrong. If l were to change things my family will be my siblings, cousins, tose from my parents family and their kids. But anyone from my step mother down that line, they are not my family, because they are not my blood except for my father´s kids with step mum.

Andi01......the choice is yours, but if it was me, l would get married to the man l love, he is not your blood, your mother´s, father´s, or one of your great grandparents. You are not related not even a little bit. If he wants to marry you and doesn´t have a problem with you, then for me everything is blessed.

As for your cousin, just tell her to f**k off, if she can´t accept it then she can go and burn in hell.

Sam2say
23 Jan 2009 14:27

Yoooo what a pedicament- wait Im coming back, let me go put on my thinnking cap.......

myname
23 Jan 2009 14:29

BM I also hate our African culture ngekudala ngashata LOL....Shame dear but it would b wise if u could ask some1 older than u. We can say u r not related kanti u r actually related. So cant u ask some1 from ur family othembekileyo nongenalwimi ongekho lastag?

kick-s
23 Jan 2009 14:30

Question:
How do you know if someone is your soulmate? Because i'd like to believe that i have a soulmate, it's just that he's still married to Jada pinkett.

ms.tebby
23 Jan 2009 14:31

Go ahead & marry your love Adi01!
Im african & you know in our tswana culture in my grandfather's age people could marry their distant relatives, and you know they would proudly say "dikgomo di boela sakeng' meaning that atleast the cattle that they are using to pay magadi is not going anywhwere far, they could still have the meat whenever they want!

GML
23 Jan 2009 14:36

No way, you are distant relatives....... That shouldnt stand in your way. And your cuz should grow up. She has her own husband, so why should she care what happens to the man.........

When your cuz was dating did the family put all that "hes family'' crap forward????

Mbalenthle
23 Jan 2009 14:37

DRAMA..........mamela sisi in the end we all related in some way its not yur fault utata akho thought he was a stud so do your thing you responsible for nobodys happiness but your own............................

ms.tebby
23 Jan 2009 14:37

<<<<Yoooo what a pedicament- wait Im coming back, let me go put on my thinnking cap.......>>>> KWA KWA KWA KWAAAAA!

ms.tebby
23 Jan 2009 14:41

<<<So you left ME for such a mess??>>>>> Thats TDC for you, LOL

<<,how old are you?>> you want to get into the picture, what aka mathata! kwa kwa kwa!

Lex
23 Jan 2009 14:42

You and your man are not related,so go for it.Your cousin ene o bolaiwa fela ke sour grapes.

Sam2say
23 Jan 2009 14:43

Nyala mothoo, ke wa gago, wa mo rata, thats all that matters.

Cuzin ya gago ya hlanya mo tlogele.

And look at it like this- If your cuzin was going out with him, that made them related, itsn't it so??? ore jwang bathong.

Now that u are going out with him ba complaina, ke sa ripita, NYALA MOTHOO!!!!

andi01
23 Jan 2009 14:44

is this Steve?- yebo yess

sorrry guys, but am back now

andi01
23 Jan 2009 14:47

@Nice-but tell me though how did you feel when they were still going out? Did you ever look at her man in that way (you know ), weren't you jealous of the two of them? - no not at all, and besides I was b/w 9and 12 yrs old then,

andi01
23 Jan 2009 14:53

When your cuz was dating did the family put all that "hes family'' crap forward????- NO not at all, i think my half-brother is just jelouse gore I am getting married, coz him and his wife, hate my guts.

andi01
23 Jan 2009 14:54

@TDC-So you left ME for such a mess- eish sani, everyday, i regret dat desicion yazi, LOL

Sam2say
23 Jan 2009 14:58

HAO AND01, ke wean kante hah ah ah ah hahh hahhahha!!!!!!

WA THSEGISI WAITSE!!!!!!!!!

carino
23 Jan 2009 14:58

Shem, andzzz... i think this is the time for you to make a selfish decision. Just think about yourself and what you want... coz, the decision to get married, you should make by yourself coz at the end of the day, you are the one that is bound to live with the person.

Culture is just culture and if you had to do everything by the book, you would probably end up marrying some figureless m&uc#er that has been chosen for you....

And im confused trying to do a family bonds on this story of yours, tryina figure out exactly how you are related to the nigga.. I dont get the connection....

Sam2say
23 Jan 2009 14:59

kE SLOU MANNN

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:01

@Carino- the connection is that, we are both related to the same person!!!!!!!!!!!!.

When we get married, my husband, will be a brother in to his own cousin, (hope i am making sense)

I want 2 marry this man more than anything else. he is the kinda person I see myslef spending the rest of my life with.

Ngqesta
23 Jan 2009 15:02

Hayi suka tshata lo mfo wena Andi uvale phezulu....if he makes you happy and he ain't your bro and your first cuz...then go for it sanas

Blackcherry
23 Jan 2009 15:04

About the cuz- it depends on how close you are to her. Honestly speaking, I wouldnt want any of my friends or family dating my ex. Especially if I had a serious relationship naye.

ms.tebby
23 Jan 2009 15:04

<<<How do you know if someone is your soulmate? Because i'd like to believe that i have a soulmate, it's just that he's still married to Jada pinkett.>>>> kwa kwa kwa!!!!!hayibo, im like Jael my ribs are cracking

Sam2say sana ke na le wena foo!

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:06

@Blacherry- we never were close. my cuz is my uncles daughter. and her uncle's daughter once dated Steve and she neva had problmes with that. Why now does she have a problem when I take a piece of him.

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:07

@ngqesta- if he makes you happy- and that he does, believe me

Cody
23 Jan 2009 15:07

Is blood thicker than love or lobola?

Hell ye!!!!!!!!!

nice
23 Jan 2009 15:08

I want 2 marry this man more than anything else. he is the kinda person I see myslef spending the rest of my life with

Andi, then marry him and everything else will fall into place.

tha - bang
23 Jan 2009 15:08

i think its a bad idea,its too messy; relations ,jilted cousins,disapproving aunts and the wedding have not started yet.its recipe for heartbreak in later years.ke lame lefoko

Strolicious
23 Jan 2009 15:08

Andi pls tell me you not getting married 2010...

Cody
23 Jan 2009 15:10

When we get married, my husband, will be a brother in to his own cousin, (hope i am making sense) MOERSKOND! this situation feels like the bold and the beautiful.

i

tha - bang
23 Jan 2009 15:12

Andi, then marry him and everything else will fall into place.
thats what the snake said to eve and look at us now LOL

awelani
23 Jan 2009 15:12

LOL @! Cody...

ms.tebby
23 Jan 2009 15:14

LOL @ Cody

awelani
23 Jan 2009 15:15

thats what the snake said to eve and look at us now>>>OMG Thabang, LMAO!!!!!!!!!!

Dimago
23 Jan 2009 15:16

thats what the snake said to eve and look at us now LOL
LOL LOL!!!

Cande
23 Jan 2009 15:17

its too complicated girl, dont go ahead with it..

You are still young, you will get mr right 1 day

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:21

its too complicated girl, dont go ahead with it- what about my feelings for this man, its not about lenyalo, or white dress or lobola, this gooes deeper, inside my heart and within the corners of my soul. hell I love this nigga

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:22

Andi pls tell me you not getting married 2010- Hell Nooooo. i would rather wait for 2011. do u o\want us to be called couple "wolrd cup"

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:23

@tha bang- how ?? if the 2 person involved love another

Cande
23 Jan 2009 15:26

ja but you will get over it, you shouldn't even have started dating in the first place.

Strolicious
23 Jan 2009 15:27

bye guys enjoy ur weekend..

Nonny
23 Jan 2009 15:28

Andi01................plz wait b4 u make a decision that u might end up regretting at the end of the day. This hit is too messy and too complicated.

cleve
23 Jan 2009 15:30

I think you shouldn't care about people who do not matter in your life. What you need is each other and whatever happens you only have yourself to blame. There's nothing worse that living with the unknown.

Blackcherry
23 Jan 2009 15:31

Well, if you're not close, then what she thinks of the union should not bother you. Like Medea would say, GO GET YOUR MAN gal.

ms.tebby
23 Jan 2009 15:35

whatever happened to Sam & his thinking cap....LOL

I dont think there is anything wrong with this personally, its not like this guy & your cuzun were married in the 1st place!

lorrelai
23 Jan 2009 15:36

Maybe I'm just ignorant, but I don't see how you guys are related, even when you explain it. Just go ahead and marry the man.

Sam2say
23 Jan 2009 15:38

@ And01 the connection is that, we are both related to the same person!!!!!!!!!!!!.

When we get married, my husband, will be a brother in to his own cousin, (hope i am making sense)

Hai you not.............

BigMama
23 Jan 2009 15:40

[we never were close. my cuz is my uncles daughter. and her uncle's daughter once dated Steve and she neva had problmes with that. Why now does she have a problem when I take a piece of him.]

The Bold and the Beautiful indeed, eish, this is too complicated, l will leave this to the experts.

tha - bang
23 Jan 2009 15:41

Andi01 love is not the be all and end all of everything.uve had your heartbroken once and u were able to move on.i honestly believe, inspite of your feelings, if u go ahead with this you may regret it till kingdom come.
bye now,hae a fab weekend

Sam2say
23 Jan 2009 15:45

@ma.tebby whatever happened to Sam & his thinking cap....LOL

ke gore ntho ena is too complicated!!!!!

GML
23 Jan 2009 15:49

Bona my dear. The only people that matter here are you and your man. You can take the time to hear what you own folks have to say about the situation. Also find out exactly how deep the connection is. It might be that we call every1 our brothers adn sisters because we have known them for a long time.

Talk to your folks and get clarity.

what aka mathata
23 Jan 2009 15:51

go nkga tweba mo.

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:55

@sam2say

My father Jack Mabaso has a first wife Busi dlomo, they have a child Senzo mabaso (my half brother), then busi dies. Busi's couzin is Sibusiso Dlomo. Sibusiso has a son Siyabonga Dlomo Jack has a second wife, Karabo moroka.they have a daughter Andi 01 Mabaso. Now siyabonga Dlomo wants to marry Andie mabaso. and Senzo Mabaso says its wrong, coz he is related to both. (hence siyabonga is his couzin form his mother's side, and andie is is half sister from his fathers), get me now

andi01
23 Jan 2009 15:56

@ Mathata- I am 24. My mother and Steve's mother are pleased with our relationship. They have no problems, whatsover.

zolx
23 Jan 2009 16:00

yho hayi andi sani i dont know what to say. it is very complicated this situation you're in and maybe because it involves family..your cousin. You know i always tell myself that family bonds should be kept tight cos whenever friends and boyfriends leave you and turn their backs on you...family will always be there. with that said i still dont knw what to advise you..maybe its because you're one of the ppl here who can look at a situation from different angles and advise umntu ngendlela egrand...so i'll just take a back seat friend.

zolx
23 Jan 2009 16:02

My father Jack Mabaso has a first wife Busi dlomo, they have a child Senzo mabaso (my half brother), then busi dies. Busi's couzin is Sibusiso Dlomo. Sibusiso has a son Siyabonga Dlomo Jack has a second wife, Karabo moroka.they have a daughter Andi 01 Mabaso. Now siyabonga Dlomo wants to marry Andie mabaso. and Senzo Mabaso says its wrong, coz he is related to both. (hence siyabonga is his couzin form his mother's side, and andie is is half sister from his fathers), get me now hahaha love your example but it does sound like a storyline out of a soapie somehow.

Luksta
23 Jan 2009 16:20

@Andi01,
Xa kukho umsebenzi kowenu, iboyfriend yakho yoshwama nani?
If not, then you are not related sisi.

However, I have a problem with this statement:
we never were close. my cuz is my uncles daughter. and her uncle's daughter once dated Steve and she neva had problmes with that. Why now does she have a problem when I take a piece of him.

What is with this man & your family? How many of you has he shagged kanti?

Ms. Jay
23 Jan 2009 16:28

she needs advice guys - hmmmmmmmm andi, I say ditch the guy - he went out with your cousin for pete sake 10 whole years later - where was he and wat was he doing all that time! - if it were me - i would tell him to take his marriage an stick it up

andi01
23 Jan 2009 16:29

@ Luksta- lets just say we live in a small place and somehow it seems liek everyone is related somehow, but he was quite a charmer ngexesha lakhe.

zolx
23 Jan 2009 16:37

went out with your cousin for pete sake 10 whole years later - where was he and wat was he doing all that time!...think you got the wrong end of the stick there Jael. Mind repeating andi?

Luksta
23 Jan 2009 16:37

OK, Andi01. You haven't answered my first question. But I assume that he doesn't do the 'ukoshwama' thing with you guyz, so I would say , Go for it.

andi01
23 Jan 2009 17:10

@Luksta- noooo he doesnt shwama with us, infact I have neve seen him emicimbini yasekhaya, just this year he accompanied me to my cousin's funeral and they were close friends also.

@ Jael- my cuz and steve's relationship was a childhood thing. They broke up and moved on, she got married and he dated other people. At some point they lived under d same roof (wit ada peopel as well), and they both were busy wit different people. So his and my cuz relationship died more than 10 years ago. I cudnt go out wit him in 1998, bcoz i felt I was too young (14 and he was 19). so we remained good friends.

Lushi
24 Jan 2009 03:49

So Andi nyani nyani uyicherry?

DJ Why why
24 Jan 2009 05:27

tl tl tl tl tl.

Gal, mina in my mind i say marry the dude, maar i know that long story related ish... Maara cant u do the slaughtering of a cow to make peace with the amadlozi or some ish...it happens.. Lawd knows my cuzins are bonking each other like rabbits...

Dimago
26 Jan 2009 12:03

go nkga tweba mo.
ROTFLMBBAO!!!!! mathata...yho

Cande
26 Jan 2009 12:14

So Andi nyani nyani uyicherry? LOL

blueroze
26 Jan 2009 12:17

sooner or later*who cares* they'll shut up so i say go ahead and marry him if you love him. to hell with what they say......i hope their parents wont be part of the negotiations though

Pooky
28 Jan 2009 12:23

i think its a bad idea,its too messy; relations ,jilted cousins,disapproving aunts and the wedding have not started yet.its recipe for heartbreak in later years.ke lame lefoko

...they've never liked her anyways, khawubanyise one more time dear utshate lendoda ingu Steve and kamnandi both mothers approve and you and your Stevie feel that you're both ready mos so why not.... i say go for it but please try i-premarital counseling first

andi01
28 Jan 2009 12:33

Sure dat Pooky, but what smost important is that I will not only marry steve to hurt someone, i will do it, bcoz i love him, period.

Pooky
28 Jan 2009 12:54

yah i know that Andi hey.....if you dont mind me asking inangaphi i-relationship yenu?

andi01
28 Jan 2009 13:03

Been shelling me for more dan ten years, but hooked up last April, why???

tshepiso
28 Jan 2009 13:05

Andi01 please follow your heart
you are far related to each other, you could have your doubts if you were from the same womb.

And please forget about your cousin - she is married for wrong reasons.

andi01
28 Jan 2009 13:19

LOL @ Thsepiso-And please forget about your cousin - she is married for wrong reasons.

tracy
28 Jan 2009 13:26

andi01 just follow your heart as for you cousin she is just being selfish obviously she doesnt like u why think about her and hell no you are not related to you man.
And once you married everything will fall into place.

Pooky
28 Jan 2009 13:27

ten years yonke andile oko ungamvumi omnye lol,kudala wakubona as upotential wifey mos, no but bendibuza nje...atherwise during that time benizi close friends kodwa??

andi01
28 Jan 2009 13:39

@Tracy- thanks girl, i feel the same way about my cuz, that she is just bein selfish.

atherwise during that time benizi close friends kodwa-we were even though we didnt see each other that often,

Pooky
28 Jan 2009 13:49

that's nice...go for it gal and please u-poste an article kalok with lots of pics...all the best and my God bless you both avah.

Zothile
28 Jan 2009 13:52

Andi you not related to your man, he is not your brother or cousin. Just marry him nje qha, if umthanda phofu. Yho! Uzolibaziswa zi-cousins ne aunties ezishatileyo.

JuneRose
28 Jan 2009 14:16

What i like about culture even if u were sortof relative, in culture both family they have to slaught a cow, ukuphelisa ubuhlobo coz already usulele (think so) naye. so that u can marry each other in peace, but i think it depend ukuthi ugumzulu or what.

If u don't find the answers, i just suggest u ask Malome Tshepo kapa Vhafuwi (Chief Azwindini) they know these things mos.

What i will say in your case u are not related.

IQ
28 Jan 2009 14:17

hee....hle bathong! you are not related, so please follow your heart.
besides if they really insist that you are related, then there's a thing called
"kgomo di boela sakeng" meaning u can even marry your cuzin, no fuss! no mess!

sponono
28 Jan 2009 14:22

you guys should ELOPE...to VENEZUELA where the'yll neva find you, you'll neva hear their complaints about you marrying into family and you'll have him all to yourself and no more prank calls..from lowo couzin-aunty...coz she obviously still loves him...and he'll NEVa leave you...coz he's your blood.anyway..(almost) so ninothando oluqinile...

on the other hand....LOVE is NEVA enough the lesser family issues you have the betta and if you enter into a marrige already having all hese issues..sjoe..you'll need more that LOVE for each other I tell you.....so ask youself if he's worth it...or you could get yourself a fine young thing who's far from family..and dump the old geezer..LOL..ok he's not n old geezer, just kidding...but if you feel strongly about it sit your family down and tell them about your love-conquers-all wish and forget about that couzin-anti she'll get over it in ten years time and then you'll be having his kids ...howz that

youngtodie
28 Jan 2009 14:28

i have to say you are not related to your man.You and him don't have the same father .And you are not even related to the mother of your half brother.Dear go ahead and marry your man.

zo
28 Jan 2009 14:46

cha andi01, mina ngithi you were not supposed to go out with ur cousins ex. in my books thats illegal.

Luksta
28 Jan 2009 14:50

So my ½brother and his mother’s sister reckon its not right that we should marry
Andi, Was it right(to these 2) for you to shag?

My cuz that he was involved with is hating my guts. She bad mouths me to my sister in law and gives me and my man prank calls.
Tell this one that you'll shag her man(even if he's unshaggable) if she doesn't stop her voet voet nonsense

Did your man propose? If he did, you should be rocking his stone already, flashing it to your cousin at every opportunity...

Pooky
28 Jan 2009 14:56

you dont know how lovely it to see your username on my screen again in 2009 Sponono, always good to see you ....

andi01
28 Jan 2009 15:05

@Zo-cha andi01, mina ngithi you were not supposed to go out with ur cousins ex. in my books thats illegal. - there is 2 much family drama in my madas's family. To cut matters short her mother bewitched my brother. But thats not the point, and this bewitching happened after i have been wit dis guy. Wat I am saying is we not close, if her mada has de audacity to bewitch and kill ma brada, hell no i dont take them as family.

Tell this one that you'll shag her man(even if he's unshaggable) if she doesn't stop her voet voet nonsense- lol, the thing is I aint after her men, but i love me some Stevie.

Did your man propose?- not official, he was doing the Xhosa thing, that he needs 2 consult his uncles, dats wen de trouble began.

flashing it to your cousin at every opportunity...-I wudnt, i genuinely love my man, I am not wit him 2 spite her, no. As far as I know dey broke up a looooooong time ago, she is just jelous, coz he knows he is a gr8 guy and from a very good family (which is something thats very important 2 her & her sistaz)

Cody
28 Jan 2009 15:10

Yah maan,Andi01 you know you want to marry your nigga, so go ahead! people will always talk amigo!! le ya kotana already mos, what cud be worse. I know that you've been wanting stevie to marry you gal, this is your moment, take it!!

Luksta
28 Jan 2009 15:11

So, what's your family(i.e your father, uncles) saying about the matter since they are the ones who will welcome his uncles?

Lex
28 Jan 2009 15:12

Iyooo!

Zah000
28 Jan 2009 15:14

if her mada has de audacity to bewitch and kill ma brada, hell no i dont take them as family.
Nkos yam Andi!! :-(

I wudnt, i genuinely love my man, I am not wit him 2 spite her, no. As far as I know dey broke up a looooooong time ago, she is just jelous, coz he knows he is a gr8 guy and from a very good family (which is something thats very important 2 her & her sistaz)
Mina i say follow your heart. You're the one that knows exactly what you need and want, irrespective of what others may say. If you love you some Stevie & he seems to be the right guy for you then angiyiboni inkinga. But whatever you decide i don't want you to have any regrets about it

andi01
28 Jan 2009 15:15

@Luksta- my mother is cool with it, infact she has never been open and positive in any of my other relationships.
My cousin- who is the hier in my fathers family, is fine with it, infact he cant wait for the lobola. Stevie's mother and sister and close cousins also are cool with it. Its just these 3 (my brother, his aunt and my cuz), that seem 2 have a problem,

Luksta
28 Jan 2009 15:21

Then marry your man sisi. Tell him to send his uncles next week...:-)

andi01
28 Jan 2009 15:24

@Zah00- the only regret i will have is to let my soulmate go, bcoz someone thinks we shudnt b 2geda.

andi01
28 Jan 2009 15:25

Ha Luksta- so soon

Luksta
28 Jan 2009 15:27

Ha Luksta- so soon
LOL@ Andi, I'm just speeding up the process.
All the best...

Zah000
28 Jan 2009 15:32

Andi kusobala ukuthi uyazifela ngo-brothaz!!! I wish you yonke i-happiness eyake yabakhona emhlabeni & so much more......... & i hope uzokuphatha kahle futhi

Pooky
28 Jan 2009 15:34

Wat I am saying is we not close, if her mada has de audacity to bewitch and kill ma brada, hell no i dont take them as family.

Nkos'onofefe........Andile just marry uStevie wakho baby please and nithandaze umdali awuqinise umtshato wenu dear.

andi01
28 Jan 2009 15:35

The almighty will pooky, I know, there are things that he, teh almighty andisindisa kuzo, that are perpetuated by people that call themsleves my family

Luksta
28 Jan 2009 15:43

Usimeme bo emtshatweni, sizoshay' i haskuku

belz
30 Jan 2009 08:06

Uyatshata andi01?? sorry wethu the replies are too much for me to catch up, im just picking up here and there uba yindaba yomtshato noStevie, uphumile ejele kanti uSteve andi?

andi01
30 Jan 2009 08:32

@belz- no me darling, Benson w(die tik-kop) as in jail, not Stevie

Feza
30 Jan 2009 08:44

Yeeeeses, This is messed up. Girl, i have no advice for you at all whatsoever. I would not know what to do.

Pray about it and see things reveal themselves...

andi01
30 Jan 2009 08:49

Things have revealed themselves, i prayed and had good advice, form all ya crazy arse niggas.

Feza
30 Jan 2009 08:55

Thats good, so what happened?

belz
30 Jan 2009 08:57

LOL!!! Oh besendimlibele uBenson. uye uyembona kodwa Andi?? bewuyithanda leyandoda ngelinye ixesha.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 08:58

Lets just say the person (my half-brother), has lost the audacity to face us and talk us outa dis, instead he is avoidng the topic, i bet deep down he knows that true love is unbreakable

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:01

@Belz- he is out of jail now, and is still tiking like there is no 2morrow, *bleep!* a pregnant whore and singing "come back belinda, come bac" everytime he sees me. U right joe, maar bengizfela ngegintsa lam.inkinga ukuthi umdavazo, hay bekewushaya. ido think of him sumtyms, but teh memories of de abuse I suffred in his hands,make me wanna stay very far from him, bekengshaya, yhooo (one mistake, bhaa, one mistake bhaa, ngashaywa)

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:08

LMAO!!!! Shem uBenzo, udinga usizo maan. Stick to Stevie andi, he sounds like he is making you happy and im sure he's not doing no tik. maar why uBenzo edavaza umfazi omithi , nc nc nc.

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:23

@Belz-maar why uBenzo edavaza umfazi omithi - he has no choice coz he pushed away the only good thing that ever happened to him (ndim ke lowo), and now he is a lonely- horny man. i do feel sorry for him coz he does say ukuthi "i was teh only person who ever really cared for him", manje he is lost, uthi he feels as though he has lost his soul, ngithi "thats how i flet everytime you beat me mafacka", now you know what it means. But ke I wudnt mis a chance of gettin a good davazing form him, sometime, before I get married.

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:26

LOL!!!!! Hayi andi, stay away from him, he will mess up umtshato wakho if you do that, ngathi ndiyambona ecaweni coming and beating the hell outta Stevie!!!

fabuliz
30 Jan 2009 09:32

But ke I wudnt mis a chance of gettin a good davazing form him, sometime, before I get married., lol, thats a good one andi01

Feza
30 Jan 2009 09:33

huuu Andi, you know some times is so hard to believe that some women actually go thru that kind of abuse.

My Zulu is very bad, so i cant make up what you're saying, forgive me if i heard you wrong, but are you saying you stayed in an abusive relationship just because the sex was good?

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:41

ndiyambona ecaweni coming and beating the hell outta Stevie!!!-,LOL , hay maan Belz, but Steve will crush Benson into pieces any time anywhere, esp now that his body is shrinking due to TIK- oloshe. (where is carino)

@Feza, sex wasnt the only reason, but yah 2 be honest, it was teh major reason, lol

belz
30 Jan 2009 09:43

his body is shrinking due to TIK- oloshe. (where is carino) >>>> LOL!!! carino will never get overr this TIK thing ever!!!

andi01
30 Jan 2009 09:49

LOL @ Belz, do u remember that blog, eish maara dose were dem good all days

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