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Dont's for Husbands by Blanche Ebutt

Written by Segololo from the blog Bookworm on 01 Apr 2009
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The little blue book called me, I ran to grab it, curious to see what Blanche Ebutt had to say to men and also see how much she knew about the men in her times. It was amazing how much Blanche wanted to get away with. The Don’ts for men seemed to make the wives idols to be worshipped. I am not complaining, I would love to be worshipped… Which woman doesn't want to be worshipped?



Anywho, as I read thru the 20 or so pages, the pressure to remember everything made me forget a lot of Don’ts – I only remember the ones that made me shake my head.

Here’s a list of the ones I remember 

Don’t leave your things lying around. It creates work she will not appreciate 

Don’t leave all the household chores to your wife. She also needs to feel like you are not a piece of furniture but a partner. 

Don’t compare your wife’s cooking or anything to your mother’s or your wife will resent you and tell you to go back to your mother. 

Don’t refuse any invitations your wife brings; be a great companion because she will do the same for you when you invite people over. 

Don’t sulk and sleep angry at each other 

Don’t always be in such a rush for work that you do not eat the breakfast she prepared or kiss her goodbye; she will be unhappy the rest of the day. 

Don’t be jealous of your wife when she has a girls nite-out. 

Don’t only share your jokes with your friends, share them with your wife aiso she will appreciate it. 

Don’t spend all your time in the local club. 

Don’t complain when the children make noise, they are your children too, have some fun with them. 

Don’t make fun of your wife when she reads soft fiction or hard news; encourage her to read it. 

Don’t forget your wife’s birthday. 

Don’t complain when your wife spends money on nightgowns. 

Don’t be too involved in the dealings with the help in the house. 

Don’t quarrel with your wife in front of the help. 

Don’t fuss if your wife goes out with a gentleman friend for dinners. If you 
complain you may push the relationship to more intimacy. 

Don’t spend all your time in the office. 

Don’t complain when your wife has gentleman friends that visit when you are not there. 

Don’t follow your wife when she visits her friends.




26 Comments

Best-Achiever
01 Apr 2009 15:56

Don’t compare your wife’s cooking or anything to your mother’s or your wife will resent you and tell you to go back to your mother.

This is very important especial for us who cant cook to save their lives, so every effort must be appreciated ..

Don’t leave all the household chores to your wife. She also needs to feel like you are not a piece of furniture but a partner.

Don’t be too involved in the dealings with the help in the house.

Don’t quarrel with your wife in front of the help.
Don’t spend all your time in the office.

Don’t forget your wife’s birthday.

Don’t complain when your wife spends money on nightgowns

Don’t complain when your wife has gentleman friends that visit when you are not there.

Luv This

maud
01 Apr 2009 16:01

get i get this book

awelani
01 Apr 2009 16:42

Don’t leave your things lying around. It creates work she will not appreciate >>Tru

Don’t leave all the household chores to your wife. She also needs to feel like you are not a piece of furniture but a partner. Verry Tru

Don’t compare your wife’s cooking or anything to your mother’s or your wife will resent you and tell you to go back to your mother. He wont, I cook better than his mother,lol

Don’t refuse any invitations your wife brings; be a great companion because she will do the same for you when you invite people over. Yes

Don’t sulk and sleep angry at each other >>Where can I get this book?? I have to show it to sum1 @ home.

Don’t be jealous of your wife when she has a girls nite-out. I have to get this book FAST.

Don’t only share your jokes with your friends, share them with your wife aiso she will appreciate it. Yes

Don’t complain when the children make noise, they are your children too, have some fun with them. LOL,, yes, dont.

Don’t forget your wife’s birthday. Or hell will break loose.

Don’t be too involved in the dealings with the help in the house. Yes, butt out, will ask for your help when its necessary.

Don’t quarrel with your wife in front of the help. YESSSS

Don’t fuss if your wife goes out with a gentleman friend for dinners. If you
complain you may push the relationship to more intimacy
. AGAIN, WHERE can I get this book??lol

Don’t complain when your wife has gentleman friends that visit when you are not there. This is impossible, Y only when he's not there???u ya hlanya this woman.

Don’t follow your wife when she visits her friends. Yes, dont,lol

Segololo
01 Apr 2009 16:51

<<Where can I get this book?? I have to show it to sum1 @ home. >> lol! Exclusive books, R57.99

awelani
01 Apr 2009 16:52

Thanx, will get i when I get paid.lol

maud
01 Apr 2009 16:54

i am getting it today this afternoon no mistake.

awelani
01 Apr 2009 17:04

Maud, can u also get me a copy and courier it to me?? u can make it my April Fools Day gift,lol..and um serious.lol

carino
01 Apr 2009 17:04

hayi kengoku.... when was this book written?? 

Was the standard of writing self-help books so low, back then??

Don’t spend all your time in the local club.
Don’t make fun of your wife when she reads soft fiction or hard news; encourage her to read it.
 

This is just funny...

Don’t leave all the household chores to your wife. She also needs to feel like you are not a piece of furniture but a partner
Don’t be too involved in the dealings with the help in the house.

Confusing... 


carino
01 Apr 2009 17:06

lol @ Awelani

Pooky
01 Apr 2009 17:09

i miss you Carino

monchooza
01 Apr 2009 17:11

Don’t complain when your wife spends money on nightgowns.

I will complain....ngoba like i said in the other blog...i said women must go to bed bamapunapuna

dali
01 Apr 2009 17:12

awe  u r broke already! listen when 1 & only speaks!

myname
01 Apr 2009 17:14

LOL Awisto its cheap ngwana ......(Geeze Blacks & free bizzzz dont b angry am also a black woman)

BTW i think it is a good book 4 men not only married men, ALL of them.....but they gonna hate it, uzobona.

Guys Hi, i miss u

Pooky
01 Apr 2009 17:17

i would never feel comfortable sleeping with something on ndileli with my man....both of us must be naked, not even boxer shorts
even if its our first time sharing a bed, we shall be naked nokuba we wont be doing anything

monchooza
01 Apr 2009 17:17

Myname you are not black umnyama...LOL

awelani
01 Apr 2009 17:17

hi Carino, miss u sisi.

@Dali,,I have an addiction um battling with,, I can listen to all the advices people throw @ me, mara unless this addiction is cured, the advices are useless,lol...and um also airtym-less, how are we gonna tok 2nite?? do me a favour, I use MTN,lol..btw, my phone only accepts airtime from R30 upwards...thanx in advance, tl tl tl

carino
01 Apr 2009 17:17

eish, pookzzz... i can almost see the look on your face, that goes with that statement. I miss you too..
I was just trying to make my way to your gb just now.... coz I was at Cafe Mojito on Long Str earlier and somehow i thought of you....

awelani
01 Apr 2009 17:19

said women must go to bed bamapunapuna,,,LMAO  Pooky & Monchoo, this is impossible.

dali
01 Apr 2009 17:22

consider it done awe!

 and i mean ill buy maself R30 airtime and we can talk then!...........LOL

dali
01 Apr 2009 17:23

or maybe i xikweleti phela mina ni connected 1 & only u xavisa ti airtime .....LOL

awelani
01 Apr 2009 17:24

Mncim, wena dali....taku kuma u ta vona.

carino
01 Apr 2009 17:28

Hey, Awe...

monchooza
01 Apr 2009 17:29

Amen pooky

dali
01 Apr 2009 17:33

u nga kwati awe phela mina na budgeta, how about this ni xa 2 ta R15 and we share............. in the spirit of easter ni ta ku xavela ya R15 neh.

Mafresh
01 Apr 2009 17:34

....ngoba like i said in the other blog...i said women must go to bed bamapunapuna..

Haai bo Mooncho....Nna i want to hlobolarish for my man, maponapona is too obvious

DJ Why why
01 Apr 2009 17:57

Haai bo Mooncho....Nna i want to hlobolarish for my man, maponapona is too obvious

LOL @ Mafresh, mina i want HIM to do the hluburaring, mapunapuna by myself already is out of question!


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