Hi Yall…What Is Your Attraction?
This article resulted as a conversation I had with a friend and because of the things he kept on telling me. The topic was attraction; he asked me what exactly is it that makes di sisters to like or be interested in me that much, well that’s according to him. I never really thought about it until he mentioned it, then I looked at all the women I have went out with and realized those older than me were leading the pack. My answer was probably because I say the right things at the right time, am very good with heart hitting facts…well at least I have been told so before.
We then spoke about the fact that gone are the days when a dude used to win a woman’s heart by selling her a dream, or just because he got chosen for them culturally and they had to learn to love them….. The times have changed so much that materialism, looks, influence and some stupid things does play a role in who we get hooked to.
Back to my friend, we work together, live in neighboring complexes, drink and sometimes eat together hell we even go out together at times and that’s if one is interested in what the other is doing. I asked’ what is it that you think these people you talking about are being pulled by’ he had no straight answer but still maintained I have too much attention from the older ones compared to the varsity chicks. At my age I have been exposed to a lot that I think helped in the process of maturing… I then asked another friend (woman) what exactly is it that made you think or make the decision of being this close to me, her response was the level of maturity I had….Hell I didn’t even know the word matured could be used in the same sentence as me, mina I love talking sh!t its in me to always be on about crap.
Just the other day I was chatting with a good friend who we no longer get that involved and the first thing I uttered was crap…I could tell she took offence and asked if I had insulted her amazingly I did not. That just shows how an idiot I am and friends have learned to live with it LOL..
I asked an ex
…”Lady what made you attracted to such a looser I am that we actually not together anymore" ?, mind you she was quick to point the only reason we broke up was because I couldn’t get enough. Hell no, she meant my girl-friends I bet and I still find that I have more female friends than males actually do I have any males friends? Back to her and exactly what I asked her answer was
“I felt safe with you, appreciated….found that I could laugh with you and when I moaned or cried you listened and was a shoulder to cry on as a result I felt supported and loved”….I had what I wanted but still I got puzzled somehow…now enough about me. Clearly I still have no flipping clue how people get attracted to me or start to like me, I mean even my own girlfriend can’t even tell why exactly she loves me and that’s if she does… all I have got was
“ K..I only understand how and it scares me at times”… My friends opinion got me thinking and tried to look at it vice versa but I even read a bit………
“While beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, it is not reserved for just the youth. Older women who take good care of themselves are often still just as gorgeous as they were when younger.
Many women in their thirties and forties will be the first to tell you that they feel more attractive than when they were younger. And, men notice!
There is something very attractive about maturity. Men find that older women are more comfortable in their own skin, and that helps them exude a certain kind of beauty.” After reading that I started to relate, mind you I hate a make up with passion because it can mislead…LOL.. My woman’s beauty comes in with nature…
Also games are for kids, and sometimes they carry over into adulthood. However, certain a bit older women may be less likely to play the dating games.
They know what they want, and do not want to waste time. For younger guys who are interested in a serious relationship, then this trait of older women can be hugely attractive……ehehehehehe
Coming to think of it am a great admirer of inner beauty, I get attracted by a woman’s intelligence, knowledge and confidence.
An event organizer friend had this to say when I asked what’s her attraction
“ A man who knows more than I do, that I can learn from and who can inspire me”….
A writer friend also had this to say when I asked what get people close to him
"People love my wicked sense of humor...its charms them” and he said this too “i am attracted to people that a free spirited, not too rigi..people who are non judgmental...smart people....oh, people always like the fact that i am smart..”
I also asked a woman I just met what’s her attraction
“ Power, money, confidence and the ability to wow her” she was quick to point love doesn’t fill the fridge, fix problem( I bet she meant financial one) but I ended up actually agreeing with her after she said “ I can afford my own flat, pay for my own car, pay my own bills so why would I go for a sore loser?” She said….
True no one wants a step back besides women are programmed by nature to feel massive sexual attraction to someone they feel is superior …
This actually takes me to another friend of mine who to this day I ask myself what the fcuk these women are seeing in him… not only is he unemployed at the moment but is a charmer and a cute pal too. He has a child by his long term girlfriend, currently dates a dentist who is so hooked the other day she came to us at the Spur and lured him to truworths for a surprise…she was buying him jeans, she probably use her car only when driving to work. Phemi is always on it… she even ask him if they could drive to see the baby together and am like ooh hooo...its clearly my friend has this woman in the comfort zone. Either he is good at saying sweet nothings or he really does tricks with dick to max.
Enough about that…… I think I now get what is my attraction to friends, fans, groupies LOL and potential wives. Its all for different reasons as I play different roles in their lives. People please share…what is your attraction? What gets people close to you if you know or have an idea…what makes you attracted to certain people it can be someone and what are some of the great stories of attraction and are there any bad ones? Have you ever got attracted/close to anyone for any wrong reasons before?
What a NICE ride....
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