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MARA WHY YEH????

Written by monchooza from the blog confessions time on 26 Jun 2009
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I am not a writer so excuse my wrong spelling and grammar

I am writing this article full of anger and hatred....angazi ngenzeni

Okey let me start at the beginning....I have two close friends 1 male and 1 female. we have been friends for decades now and I love them both futhi nabo bayazi. kwenzike ke ukuthi both of them started having feelings for each other after years of being friends. so they started dating (undercover). they hid it from me ukuthi sebayajola. I only found out ngokujola kwabo sebana 2 years bajola. since kungasiyindaba yam I did not make a big deal out of it.

The girl and the guy live together now....bayakipita. and they look happy emehlweni wabantu...kanti they are not happy. the guy is forever hitting the gal. damnit uyam muura hayi indaba yokudlala. and mind you the girl is very much educated, and she knows her rights as a woman. kodwa she does not practice what she preaches.

As a friend I could not just stand on the sideline and pretend nothing is happening (i have not witnessed any of their fighting since they fight endlini when they are alonethe only thing i witnes are scars on her body)...so I stepped in and talked to each of them individually..the responses I got from them makes me wonder ukuthi why are they even together.

It seems they are both confused and they are staying together ngoba they understand each other backrounds and situations. he hits her atleast 5 times a week. and I am not talking impama here umshaya abe ngathi ushaywe umphakathi. her bodies is forever bruised (not the face though)

enden he tells me ukuthi he has never hit a woman in his life before uyaqala ngomnani wam. and he says she makes him hit her....ngoba she does not respect him, and also he says she is a nondidwa who sleeps with anything that walks.

and she says she does not know what to do anymore ngoba she does everything he says..mara at the end of the day uyam muura still. I advised her to get out of the relationship...and she says she will...nini??? i ask her. and she does not answer me.

mind you they are both my friends..and now I feel hatred towards they guy for being such a jerk...I HATE WOMAN BEATERS.
and i feel angry towards the girl for not walking out..ngoba clearly there is no future there....the only thing i see now ukuthi he will kill her eventually. I have tried to distance myself from them...mara i find myself thinking about them a lot.

I dont know what to do now....i even advised her about bophising the guy, and she did not.
i advised her to walk out..she did not

why do woman stick to such loosers and cowards?
why do guys have to keep beating their woman kunokuthi bahlukane?
what can i as a friend do to better their situation?

114 Comments

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 11:58

ASIKHULUMENI...LETS TALK

awelani
26 Jun 2009 12:02

FIRST!!!!!!

now lemme go bek and read.lol

ms.tebby
26 Jun 2009 12:03

ehehehe...monchoo lemme read...i thinking this must be a killer article, knowing you!

Strolicious
26 Jun 2009 12:04

why do woman stick to such loosers and cowards?
i wish i knew nami,mina my cozin wld shaya his galfrnd till aze achame,and the chick was use to being beatin....tjo mina i dnt knw ngingenza njani,angavuka ame ngezinyawo amaN....
why do guys have to keep beating their woman kunokuthi bahlukane?
they r cowards that why ,
what can i as a friend do to better their situation?
its beyond amandla akho,u tried everything u cld do 4 dm..so I stepped in and talked to each of them individually..the responses I got from them makes me wonder ukuthi why are they even together

yippeee im 1st

cleve
26 Jun 2009 12:06

Number1: Women do not practice wht they preach!!!!!!!!!!

Strolicious
26 Jun 2009 12:06

mxi i tot i was 1st......it nt fair Awelani,,,,,,grrrrrrr

ms.tebby
26 Jun 2009 12:07

he hits her atleast 5 times a week. >>>>that means every working day! hmmits almost his JD

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 12:09

what joy does one get from beating omunye umuntu...espesheli a woman?? nxxx

ms.tebby
26 Jun 2009 12:11

....who sleeps with anything that walks. >>>>>kwa kwa kwa kwaaaa

BigMama
26 Jun 2009 12:14

@monchooza...........You have already done your part, there is nothing you can do because at the end they will think that you want to separate them. And as for the gal, she is that relationship because she likes it, otherwise she would have walked out a long time ago.
l am saying this because l also had a friend who was in that situation and l did my level best in trying to make her see what the guy is doing to her is wrong, but she took it the other way round. And as l type this, the gal does not greet me, but l was only trying to help her.

Strolicious
26 Jun 2009 12:14

ubugwala nje dat all....1 day he will get izintanga zakhe,sum women bayashaya ,my Aunt her husband used to hit her almost everyday,1 day she locked both of them inside walahlela isi key ngaphandle tjo bamshaya loya bhuti dat was da last tym washa umuntu wesifazane.

Cody
26 Jun 2009 12:15

only thing i witnes are scars on her body).

he he he! Monchoo how did you get to see the scars on her body?? ini ngathi nawe ustout Monchoo? ;-)

ms.tebby
26 Jun 2009 12:15

Le nna I hate woman beaters, violence is not the solution to anything & will never be...I fail to understand why this girl cant get out of this...anyway there are types of girls who believe that wen a guy hits them its to prove their love

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 12:16

Stroh this girl uyamuura self...mara akamuuri leslima se ou yakhe

MaMchunu
26 Jun 2009 12:18

Has your friend never heard of the saying "Once VICTIM, twice VOLUNTEER?"

If she really wants to see herself making any kind of progression in life, she has to walk away now before she walks away in a coffin.

The best thing you can do is to show some tough love. If it means getting her family involved, do it. She may hate you and never speak to you again, but isn't it better knowing that you saved a life?

lady gaga
26 Jun 2009 12:18

those people yizinja. its so sad when it happens to someone close to you and you find out dat they dnt see anything wrong with it, dey think its love.

i also have a friend who is being beaten,cheated on, etc. her boyfriend treats her very bad, but she makes excuses for him and she is the one always running back to the guy, i want to tell her to stop and leave this guy but knowing her she will think dat nginomona since i dnt have i boyfriend myself!!! and to think dat they have a baby ,hai !!

so i just hope and pray dat one day she will open her eyes and see the guy for what he really is before its too late.

the boyfriend dsn't even like me dat much, cause he knows dat i dnt like what he is doing,well i dnt like him either...........

Toxic
26 Jun 2009 12:18

monchooza, there is NUTHIN you can do about this! All you can do is what you've already done, talk to them. Ngeke umfoste ayeke umuntu wakhe.

awelani
26 Jun 2009 12:18

This hard Monchoo, they are both ur frends,, maybe u must moer the guy. Nxa!!

why do woman stick to such loosers and cowards?
In the hope that he will change, maybe it was just a once off incident, or maybe coz they have kids 2geda or afraid that they will be judged and not wanting to disappoint the parents...
why do guys have to keep beating their woman kunokuthi bahlukane?
Coz they wana feel inferior...
what can i as a friend do to better their situation?
Dude, try to speak to the guy, u have already spoken to the gal but she is ofcos blinded by 'love',,but then again, if this idiot is calling her all these names, if the gal is indeed tikilining, Y cant he just leave her?? Does the guy work Monchoo??

sweetie my baby
26 Jun 2009 12:20

this is a sick relationship.... so sorry you had to be in the middle of it. but it seems as though it doesn't have the strongest foundation (starting out in secret, and maintaining the secret for close on 2 years!!)

honestly, the painful truth is that they're both adults and have to get to that point by themselves. all you can do is talk to her and say 'when you are ready to get out of this mess, call me, and i'll be your support system'. make sure she knows that you mean it -

depending on your level of familiarity and closeness to them, i suppose you could let her family know - it really depends on the dynamics though - this could turn a bad situation worse....or it might be the solution that this situation requires. you'll have to make a judgement call.

from the guys perspective, i think you need to drag him to see his nearest priest, father figure, spiritual mentor, community leader - any male he respects, to break the ish down.... these situations, i think that a man talking to another man is step one - and i love that you've done that. i guess, you could ALSO try talking to his family (again, depending on how close you are). i would certainly want to know if my brother was beating his woman- so i could straighten him out, coz we didn't grow up like that.... again, this is your call.

good luck!

lady gaga
26 Jun 2009 12:21

This hard Monchoo, they are both ur frends,, maybe u must moer the guy. Nxa!!

awe, awe, awe, awe, awe, awe, awe, LMAO !!!!!!!

Matha
26 Jun 2009 12:23

I hate to be the "Devil´s Advocate" here, but who is it who beats the MAN when HE endangers the family, the society etc.? Who beats him when HE screws tramps and prostitutes and then gives AIDS to his wife and unborn child? When he brings drugs into the home or criminals or drunks who then rape his 10 year old daughter while he is passed out, hey? Who then administers the beating that HE deserves? Sorry but a double standard is NO standard at all! i am sorry having to say this... i cannot respect men any more. you suck. you really do. you bring so much pain over the whole word.

Toxic
26 Jun 2009 12:26

monchoo is she the one that was on your profile pic on tuesday? cause if it is, that woman is heading to the mortuary!

GML
26 Jun 2009 12:27

why do woman stick to such loosers and cowards?
Women do this because they believe that they can change the man.

why do guys have to keep beating their woman kunokuthi bahlukane?
They are insecure about themselves and have their shortcomings. they cover these by doing something that will deflect the attention from their imperfections. He probably has something that he doesnt like about himself so he hides it by doing something drastic like beating her.
what can i as a friend do to better their situation?
You have done your bit. Tell you friend how you hate the fact that he is an abuser and tell him that it is for this reason that you choose to no longer associate himself with him. and until he chooses to seek help you will avoid any contact with him whatsoever.
Tell her that when she is ready to get help you will be there for her and will help her in anyway. But as long as she chooses to be in this relationship you will not be around to see herself being made a punching bag.

cleve
26 Jun 2009 12:28

why do woman stick to such loosers and cowards?

It's like a spell that is cast on you. You are made to feel useless and that no other guy will want to be with you. You are called so many names that you start believing this person. It's so sad, the self-esteem is non-existant. This person makes you believe that without him you are nothing. NOTHING,,

why do guys have to keep beating their woman kunokuthi bahlukane?
It's their insecurities especially when they know that you can do so much better than them. In this situation this guy is trying to make the girl feel as if she is not all that even though she can be independant. They try and find your weakness and when they do they capitalise on it.

what can i as a friend do to better their situation?
there is nothing you can do. Just leave her it's her life. She will let you know when she needs help. Let her know that you are there for her. But there's really nothing you can do until she asks for your help.

cleve
26 Jun 2009 12:28

Cody
26 Jun 2009 12:28

if the gal is indeed tikilining, Y cant he just leave her??

I've seen cases like these so many times, where guys say that a girl is cheating and sleeping around, but they dont leave them they would rather beat them up. it really puzzels me why one would want to jola ne tikiline?

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 12:28

Cody angithi she is my friend so she shows me "bheka ungenzeni izolo umngani wakho" is what she says njalo when she shows me...

and they dont realise ukuthi the life they are living is affecting me

zozoe
26 Jun 2009 12:30

why do woman stick to such loosers and cowards?
-they have a hope ya gore it will stop one day but the question is when or will it stop ok thats what i think coz we as women always hope the best out of worse
why do guys have to keep beating their woman kunokuthi bahlukane?
- i think they are cowards but theres something behind that sometimes it may be how they grew up or sumtimes the guys has anger hes been carrying his whole life and thats dangerous coz he is taking out on some people he loves most.
what can i as a friend do to better their situation?
- pliz review that backgrounds and help them deal with those thing that makes them angry from the past or attend psychologists e.g. I somebody grew up without a father they always have that anger of rejection and they dont know how to deal with the problem is they've been rejected, they cant forgive so you can imagine somebody growing up with that anger

i dont know if i made sense

Sammis
26 Jun 2009 12:31

This hard Monchoo, they are both ur frends,, maybe u must moer the guy. Nxa!!

Funny!! but you have a point. the guy needs some beating as well! a c-rus beating!!

Since you say this gal can also Moerr, Why can't she give this bastard a taste of his own medicine!!

I don't ubderstand guys who beat their women and then the next day they tell them how much they them!! How do you beat up someone you love? What do you feel when you see them crying out for help?

Women beaters are psychs maaan!!!

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 12:31

<<This hard Monchoo, they are both ur frends,, maybe u must moer the guy. Nxa!!>>

awelani the though has crossed my mind as unviolent as i am

Sammis
26 Jun 2009 12:33

how much they love

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 12:36

has any of you guys been in such relationships?????

GML
26 Jun 2009 12:38

Mochoo:

I have just of something.

Fetch the guy and tell him you want to take him somewhere. Tell the gorl to meet at the very same place also tell her to bring her sisters and brothers if she has any.

Then when you get there, you say to him in front of her siblings

Hit her. If you can do it behind closed doors you can do it in front of her family. Hit her. Then tell the siblings that he has been beating her up. then just stand back and watch.

If it were my family the man would be dead. I tell you. Dead. no explanations. they would hear they words "he hit her" and they would be on top of him

zozoe
26 Jun 2009 12:38

monchoo pliz PM their nnumbers i want to sort this guy out and the lady i just wanna remind her , her values thats all.

i am so angry i hate men who hit women thats all

Taken
26 Jun 2009 12:39

1. Why do women stick 2 such losers?

Its bcoz of Love and hoping that he will change ( wich never happens).

2.Why do guys keep beating their women?

Most guys that beat wome r the ones that feel overpowered by them(women) in termsof achievements. The guys basuke bezama ukubuyisa isithunzi, which I think is stupid.

3. What can I do as a friend?

Niks coz uv tried everything, u can only be there for her. As for the guy, what he does is disgusting, stop being frnds with him period. Uyiqaba!!!!!

Cody
26 Jun 2009 12:40

the girl is very much educated

that is the problem right there, the guys is just insecure, well in most cases men who beat women have low self esteem, so they often try to drag the ladies in their lives to that same level...nc nc nc!

and women most of the time, believe that if the man beats her , the man loves her too much!so they will stop the beating them if they behave themselves, or they think they cannot get a better man after this one. and i must say there is no graduate when it come to emotional issues, no matter how educated you are, emotional issues become a very different concept.

cleve
26 Jun 2009 12:42

has any of you guys been in such relationships?????

I was in one, I am still with that person. We are married but he has changed drastically coz he came so close to losing me. I really don't know what made him do those things. But the man I married is back now and the MONSTER is gone.

Sammis
26 Jun 2009 12:44

I know a lady at work who gets beaten by the fiance. The guy is so evil he once hit her in front of his colleagues.
The company staff went on a sports tour and they came back late. he came to fetch her and beat her up at the parking lot (Because she came back late, duh! She had no control over that!) Funny nobody did nothing about it.

But she's just like any other lady in an abusive relationship: Not ready to get out.

I don't know if she finds this amusing but one day she was showing her co-worker some pics of her bruised lips on the phone and she was laughing about it.
I hope for her & her child's sake the fiance don't kill her. :(

GML
26 Jun 2009 12:49

My sister had been going out with her BF for 3 1/3 years. Then one day he hit her.
She told me that he hit her and I called my baby sister who was 16 at the time. Then she told our nephew who was 11 at the time. Now you may think what are those kids going to do a fully grown man?

Later the BF was forcing my sister to leave with him to his place. she didnt want to but decided to go to avoid making a scene. my sister and nephew followed them and he never hit her with then there. Instead he threatened to hit all of them but he never did. When I found out that he threatened them I blew my top.

I called him and said to him I dare you to hit her and all of them. Then try hitting my dad.

He did not listen. I called my dad who got there so fast. This guy couldnt even talk with my dad there

Pepsi Cola
26 Jun 2009 12:50

HEY GUYS!!!

I hav been in once in an abusive relationship de guy I was dating used 2 beat me and I got tired of it and I put a stand. I then hit him back, but it was'nt nice for him cause I hit him with objects he ended up being a scrap. @ my home they decided that we must leave each other alone. Cause 1 wil end-up dead or hospitalised.

It ended up like that, I wil advise de ladies to stop being abused it's not worth it!!!

GUYS ENJOY YO WEEK-END!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cody
26 Jun 2009 12:50

Good for you Cleve!! you did good by leaving him otherwise he wouldn't have learned a thing.

GML
26 Jun 2009 12:51

Instead this idiot tried to hit one of the police that was there.

myname
26 Jun 2009 12:56

Shame Monchy

My father of my baby tried to hit me. He wanted to & i told him to hit me but he just left me standing there ngathi ndiyi traffic light. He shwabanisad my clothes & i was buzy yelling at him to hit me. I could c in his face & eyes that he wanted to kill me but he swallowed his pride. I called the police & he got arrested (he stayed emjiva for 3 days) & i told him, YOU MUST NEVER EVER TOUCH ME bcoz im not yours. And i broke up with him.

5X a week? Seems like the brother is taking some exercise nhe .....kanti gym is for what guys??????

cleve
26 Jun 2009 13:01

Good for you Cleve!! you did good by leaving him otherwise he wouldn't have learned a thing.

No im still with him Cody but he doesn't abuse me anymore. I don't know whar was worng with him during that period but he learnt his lesson and can control his anger now.

awelani
26 Jun 2009 13:06

@Cleve, maybe he was bewitched,lol..I've heard that some people can loya ur partner to be violent 2wards u bcos of mona..lol

Pooky
26 Jun 2009 13:14

mxim she must just drug the sucker ngama sleeping pills, take off all his clothes and tie him while his asleep. Wait till he's awake and beat the *bleep!* out of him with a shambok/imvubu nxan..........bloody coward

Phikza
26 Jun 2009 13:15

I havent read the entire article and replies bit this is a very sad dtory Monchoo....

he tells me ukuthi he has never hit a woman in his life before uyaqala ngomnani wam. and he says she makes him hit her....ngoba she does not respect him....................I dont know how true this is but I believe it has some truth in it.....but none the less....no woman deserves that! bebeqhelene kakhulu so ngoku usisi cant deferentiate (I know there's no such word but islingu sinzima wethu...lol) the two...the guy he was(a friend) and umntu wakhe.......it could be that she is not respecting him but kusisi he has always been a friend to her

>>>>>will continue reading

Phikza
26 Jun 2009 13:16

dtory meant story

maud
26 Jun 2009 13:18

tshoo ,i havent finish reading this, i dont care how much i love you, when i go into a relationship i have two things that i tell a brother that i wont forgive, firstly i am not a panching bag secondly if he is tired with the relationship he is free to go. the rest you can do what ever you like , cheat but make sure i dont catch you because , two can play the game.

i was once in volve with a teacher, we had a good relationship for years,one day he suspected that i was having an affair, iyo azangengibethwe kanje, i told him immediately that its over ,he came back thinking that i was joking telling me of letting one mistake destroy the love we build for years, and darling there is no mistake in punching someone, ngamlahla ngimthanda njalo.

my partner always tells me that one day uzongilibala angidonse ngempama, ngithi as long as wazi ukuthi that will be the end of our relationship.

cleve
26 Jun 2009 13:22

@Cleve, maybe he was bewitched,lol..I've heard that some people can loya ur partner to be violent 2wards u bcos of mona..lol

Awelani, you don't know how true that could be. But seriously I dont know what was wrong with him. But I'm glad whovever tried to pull us apart made us even closer. LOL

awelani
26 Jun 2009 13:36

lol cleve

LM
26 Jun 2009 13:46

This is really depressing....batho ba bona marago a tshwene out there as Mathata would put it...

We women tend to be nice and understanding even when know very well that whatever ishhh that is happening is killing us!!!

Strolicious
26 Jun 2009 13:46

Lol @ Pooky......mina bangithela ngamanzi.....

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 13:58

i am sorry if this Q sounds kabi
mara How do these guys shaya you ladies is it.....

a fight where you both get the chance to punch each other?
do they throw you to the ground and kick the life out of you?
do they throw things at you?
do they talk whilst hitting you?

the only time i have witnessed domestic violence its when i see it ku TV, the like of soul city

SmartGuy
26 Jun 2009 14:07

Cody angithi she is my friend so she shows me "bheka ungenzeni izolo umngani wakho" is what she says njalo when she shows me...

and they dont realise ukuthi the life they are living is affecting me

I suggest you take photos of her forward them to this BBOY's mail box with warnings, he does'nt have time to look at her entire body he will be shocked and afraid of this evidence,
Otherwise invite him here in this blog=sizomxelelarisha

mstick
26 Jun 2009 14:10

Tjo mngani wami please dont tell me i know this guys......phela i only knw two of ur frnds who wil do that...omg....i'm going to phone you now Moncho

Mathaz
26 Jun 2009 14:16

In my case it's the other way around, when i'm angry at my husband i hit him.

awelani
26 Jun 2009 14:21

tjooo, are u serious Mathaz??

cleve
26 Jun 2009 14:22

Monchooza, with me it would start off with an argument. Then he would get so angry that he would promise to bliksem me. Being the hot head that I am I would tell him to do it. When he did I would fight back throw anything that was in front of me. I would fight back but at the end of the fight I was the one with the blue/black-eyes. But it's so hard to believe that we were once that couple.

cleve
26 Jun 2009 14:23

In my case it's the other way around, when i'm angry at my husband i hit him.

Mathaz, don't do that. Don't forget that thjis is a man. He is probably physically stronger than you and the day he retaliates he is going to send you to your grave.

myname
26 Jun 2009 14:24

Mathaz are u not scared one day he will hit u back & damage your precious face?

Angekhe guys, im a coward, i cant fight.

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 14:28

yep its the people you know mstick

GML
26 Jun 2009 14:39

SmartG: she wont agree tio have him take those photo's.

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 14:43

Thatha Mathaz...GAL power...lol

belz
26 Jun 2009 14:48

and I am not talking impama here umshaya abe ngathi ushaywe umphakathi.>>>> kwakwakwakwa, sorry as sad is this is, this line ingibulele. continuing reading*

Beyonce
26 Jun 2009 14:51

Guys: Bajabulule Masombuka of Ses'khna fame? I hear she also passed away, does anyone know her and what happened?

belz
26 Jun 2009 14:59

Sweetie my bayyyyybeeee, i love your response, now monchooo thats the ish right thur!!! i have a problem with one of my brothers, but eykahe ngeyobukhebereshe nje and requires its own blog, so ngizomusa kupriest nam.

mathata
26 Jun 2009 14:59

i think your friend ke skelem,i think she stays with the guy bcs she does'nt want to pay rent Period!

in life ther is no free lunch,now shis paying with sex n her soul.she knows very well what shis doing.i dont feel shame for her.

If a women knows how to put a condom in men penis....she knows wrong n right.

this guy he will rot in jail one day n miss KFC.
you as a friend wash your hand,dont you know some women enjoy when men hit them?they become 100% horny.maybe is how she want things

Pooky
26 Jun 2009 15:04

Thatha Mathaz...GAL power...lol

Monchi you sound very funny saying that lol

awelani
26 Jun 2009 15:13

kwakwakwakwakwa Mathata, ur respones are always out of this world.

Pooky
26 Jun 2009 15:14

i am sorry if this Q sounds kabi
mara How do these guys shaya you ladies is it.....

well an ex used start with a klap ngiyowela kwa hell and then follow with the punches on the lower body, hayi ebusweni. He used to threaten to cut my hair off while i was sleeping so i'd be forced to cut my hair i-cheese kop so no man would be interested in me. Wayesithi my long hair zingenza ngiphaphe............to cut a long story short, i retaliated once and bit his pipi till he vomitted and fainted. Yah well i tried leaving him, he stalked me and threatening to kill me then himself...i got a protection order, he violated it , he got arrested for the violation and spent a few months in jail...and now he wont even look at me mangidlula estratweni.

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 15:16

<<<Thatha Mathaz...GAL power...lol

Monchi you sound very funny saying that lol>>>

Kwa kwa kwa pooky..uyizwaphi i sound...lol

mathata
26 Jun 2009 15:18

@awe,batho ke di kelem maan.

awelani
26 Jun 2009 15:18

Pooky, u know i love u gal, but kwakwakwakwakwa @ the way u just told ur story,, LOL

cleve
26 Jun 2009 15:21

That's great Pookzana!

BigMama
26 Jun 2009 15:22

Guys: Bajabulule Masombuka of Ses'khna fame? I hear she also passed away, does anyone know her and what happened?

Yes the gal passed away, but no one is prepared to tell the world what happened.

awelani
26 Jun 2009 15:24

but biig ups to u Pooky, and when u bit his tsotsolozi, did u leave it disabled?lol

zolx
26 Jun 2009 15:25

this is really sad. in my neighbourhood - a guy hit his gal to death. We woke up in the middle of one Friday night to the screams of a woman, no a young gal - she must be 20 or early 20's. the guy was drunk but i dont know about her. from what he was saying this gal had just come to his flat ebusuku so he was asking where she'd been all night. The next day he woke up to a cold body of his galfriend -guy is in prison but akakagwetywa and that happened like last month.

And you know how people are - neighbours hear screams but no-one wants to intervene, it was bad. When i think about it i start hearing that gals screams, calling on God and asking for the boyfriends forgiveness but it ws like he was possessed or something.

I say if you can fight back do cos at least nayo indoda inenyama nje izobuva ubuhlungu - bloody cowards and zishumane .

Pooky
26 Jun 2009 15:25

LOL....Monchi you know what i mean maan nxn
Awelani....i love you back, the bruises have faded my love ngoba ngayithola i-revenge yami and his toli got bruised so hleka sthandwa ahahahahahahahahahahahah

am out yall.....have a super weekend...love yall

Mathaz
26 Jun 2009 15:27

I'm serious and i feel so bad about and i know that i'm disrepecting him. It would happen and not talk about it. It started when i was pregnant and i thought it was hormones but it has since continued after i gave birth. Maybe i should get help!!

Cody
26 Jun 2009 15:28

No im still with him Cody but he doesn't abuse me anymore

I am aware of that Cleve, i should have rather said, it was a good thing that you left him for a while, otherwise he wouldn't have recognised what he would loose if he lost you

awelani
26 Jun 2009 15:29

thats really sad Zolx,,

bye Pookz.

Sammis
26 Jun 2009 15:29

tjo tjo tjo Pooky! you bit his 4-5! Hayi sisi goof for you!! hahahahahaha! i can just imagine the brother vomiting & fainiting. danggg!

And he was so wrong if he thought men wouldn't look at you because of chiskop! Some guys like ladies with natural looks.

zolx
26 Jun 2009 15:31

And he was so wrong if he thought men wouldn't look at you because of chiskop! Some guys like ladies with natural looks - and i bet belz will prove him wrong angithi belzito

awelani
26 Jun 2009 15:32

Mathaz, maybe u shud get help sisi,,,

awelani
26 Jun 2009 15:33

lol Zolx,

monchooza
26 Jun 2009 15:39

LOL pooky were you giving him a Bj when you bit him...

or uku klape ngemama wawela le ka hell wabese ukhasa ngamadolo waqonda nqo ku socket box yakhe maluma waze wafeinta?..lol

Katlegom
26 Jun 2009 15:41

Guys: Bajabulule Masombuka of Ses'khna fame? I hear she also passed away, does anyone know her and what happened?
i didnt know she passed away, when?

Katlegom
26 Jun 2009 15:58

And you know how people are - neighbours hear screams but no-one wants to intervene, it was bad. When i think about it i start hearing that gals screams, calling on God and asking for the boyfriends forgiveness but it ws like he was possessed or something.
I witness a guy hitting his helpless girlfriend on tuesdaty night, i think that guy was possessed as well, how can you kick a woman in the face and hit the head against a car bonet, it was so set becasue i didnt help that poor woman as i was scared that guy will hit me too, he really looked possessed.

belz
26 Jun 2009 16:08

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahah Pooky!!!!!!!! Zolx, ewe mazol, even unechiskop someone will dig you wena Pookzisto. LMAO @ you guys yho shame.

Sammis
26 Jun 2009 16:12

@katlego. Maybe you should have called the cops....

belz
26 Jun 2009 16:12

LOL!!! Katlego, mina thats why i have isbhamu endlini, so whether upossessed or not, i will just fire a shot, the demons will go away and im sure you will come back to your senses. skhathele ngeabuse.

zolx
26 Jun 2009 16:28

mina thats why i have isbhamu endlini, so whether upossessed or not, i will just fire a shot, the demons will go away and im sure you will come back to your senses - yhu uthini na belz, awudlaleli kulezo zinto wena. ngyakwesaba galfriend.

bye peeps - Monday is anada day

Manthaka
26 Jun 2009 16:29

Monchooza; your friend knows exactly what he must do believe me; she just want to hear somebody telling her what she already knows. and when you tell her to leave him you are the bad one; my advice; jus be supportive like they are saying, let her know that you will always be there whenever she needs and you will support whatever decision she takes.

I once had a friend and neighbour who was married to this abusive husband; who did not only abuse her but her child also (not his). i once tell her that she must leave this man; believe me that same night when they were fighting she mentioned it that "tht's why so n s said you are no good I must leave you" I got suprised when the jerk came to my place asking me who am I in their marriage; i know too much I must ficus on my life; I was very shocked and endup not answering him at all; just kept staring at him.

we end up not being friends because of that tot vandag. i have learned not to advice but just to listen; but in this case it maybe easier for you to intervene as you are friends with both of them.
sorry for the long reply. have a lovely weekend guys.

belz
26 Jun 2009 16:32

lol zol.

Cande
26 Jun 2009 16:49

eish Monchooza i think you have done your bit and its now up to your friend to decide what she wants to do. This man has low self-esteem that is why he is hitting her

mstick
26 Jun 2009 18:27

yep its the people you know mstick....OMG mara why vele im so dissapointed on the boy i trusted him.....oh God the girl needs to do something mzala haibo

mstick
26 Jun 2009 18:42

Stroh this girl uyamuura self...mara akamuuri leslima se ou yakhe.....oh yes she does that's why i'm suprised ukuthi the"guy" uyamshaya cause i tell u the guy is so skinny one can blow him off by just breathing soft...so haino angazi why the "lady" puts up with him

Toodecent
27 Jun 2009 03:53

Monch...u malcolm x in this situation hey?Mina I suggest youe moer the guy and am happy to help you on this one..

Strolicious
27 Jun 2009 07:22

the guy is so skinny one can blow him off by just breathing soft...lmao @ Mstick

Pooky
29 Jun 2009 10:10

LOL pooky were you giving him a Bj when you bit him...

or uku klape ngemama wawela le ka hell wabese ukhasa ngamadolo waqonda nqo ku socket box yakhe maluma waze wafeinta?..lol

LMFAO....kalokku Monchi we were both naked neh, we'd both just finished taking a bath and then somehow kwaqala i-quarrell, wabeseqalisa ukungishaya nami ke angazi kwenzekani ngavele ngamshaya and he slipped and fell, and that's when i got a chance to go for his privates...one hand was on his neck chocking him, the other on his balls squeezing them and then my teeth on his loli bitting and pulling it.
....heish look at you, making me go into detail & all lol

Yeah i get you Zolx but some people are made for i chizkop but hayi mina, ikhanda lami lincane stoo much lol

monchooza
29 Jun 2009 10:19

Jah noh Pooky you are a Jecky China woman...lol

Mafresh
29 Jun 2009 12:36

All that I can say is: Moonchy u have played your role as a friend. Bohloko ba seeta bo utlwiwa ke mongwa sone...GML translate asseblief.

belz
29 Jun 2009 12:42

Yho Pooky ungumbulali shame, im scare of you from today. to think i thot you were some skinny little shy gal, OMG!!! rigdht now the image i have of you is of that woman who does the whenever cell c ads.

Cody
29 Jun 2009 12:47

LMAO LMAO & LMAO Pooky sho you almost killed the poor man's future family.

now the image i have of you is of that woman who does the whenever cell c ads.

LMAO & ROTFLMAOTIPAL!!!!!!!!!! Hau Belz unwrongo!

Pooky
29 Jun 2009 13:03

LMAO belz belz belz uthini, cell c lady ? kwa kwa kwa....erase that image my dear please coz i so do not look like that lady yoh

VusiK
30 Jun 2009 00:02

This one is tragic.

Akaphume lobhuti empilweni ka-loSisi, or the other way.

Women beaters never repent, and never change

I can't see why the sister is staying in this type of environment. It makes no sense

Her staying only damages whatever possibilities she has for herself out in the world in future relationships, her perception of men will change because beatings trigger a pavlovian response, and conversely the lack thereof has a pavlovian response.

Do something as her friend and help her get out of this. It is necessary for her personal well being.

They may be reaching the point at which violence becomes synonymous with Love and Passion.

The brother has the possibility of not being able "to get it up" without physically dominating her, and the quickest way of manifesting it is by beating her. He should leave and go live in Europe and the States where B&D / S&M is tolerated, and admired.

Your friend is in grave danger, ... if she hasn't fallen off the cliff, she will, and won't recover.

Sshe may end up being one of those women who provokes violence to feel appreciated by her man. The result is always the same ... She will die violently!

Help her get out of this caustic situation. Please!!!

VusiK
30 Jun 2009 01:19

on the llighter side .... the make up sex may Just be .... Just Be ....... Stellar

Let's fight .... so we can make up!!!!

VusiK
30 Jun 2009 01:46

@Pooky

Ngiyakuhlonipha Sisi!

Nami bengizohlanza ngiqonde Ngqo!

Best-Achiever
17 Jul 2009 10:08

Monch ... wagcine umshayile yini umngani wakho ...LOL

monchooza
17 Jul 2009 10:51

BA....

well...two weeks back they again fought and fought..in the middle of the night and bagwazana with bottles because they were both drunk.........i took the girl to the doctor in the morning..Tsho i love my doctor....she told her amaqiniso...wamthethisa strong...telling her ukuhti she is a beautiful girl and that she must do the right thing...she even told her of a few of her patience that died from such situations..

and after that the doc called the police and they took they girl to the police station to open a case.....

so yeah finally they have hlukanad

and i must say they are missing each other dearly.....mara i am happy because they can now continue living their lives...

awelani
17 Jul 2009 10:55

OMW, they stabbed each other Monchoo,, um glad they have broken up finally..adawise, they were gonna make Daily Sun front page...what do u mean they are missing each other dearly?? do they miss fighting??

Best-Achiever
17 Jul 2009 10:56

thanks for the feedback .... i hope she doesnt withdraw the case

Phikza
17 Jul 2009 11:07

.two weeks back they again fought and fought..in the middle of the night and bagwazana with bottles because they were both drunk......................tjo, mahlanya fela!

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