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I've been dumped again

Written by dali from the blog SIS DOLLY on 06 Aug 2009
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im 25 and have just been dumped by my third boyfriend since the beginning of the year.

what's worse is that one of my exes doesnt even bother to greet me anymore. it's so embarassing when you're with your friends and you meet your ex but he ignores you.

i've tried to study all my relationships to avoid repeating the same mistake but it keeps on happening. it has even come to a point where i think other women are lying when they speak about how their men adore them.

is there something wrong with me? im tired of this.

anonymous, ethekwini

mablogers what advice would u give to anonymous? itz women's month en no woman shud be feeling like dis right now. letz help dis sista out....

82 Comments

dali
06 Aug 2009 10:13

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kellogs
06 Aug 2009 10:15

shame askies wena

kellogs
06 Aug 2009 10:15

how long do the relationships last?

Loreal
06 Aug 2009 10:16

What advice would YOU Dali give the confused lady???

lady gaga
06 Aug 2009 10:22

im 25 and have just been dumped by my third boyfriend since the beginning of the year.

after reading this, i would say u dnt have to feel bad as ur still lucky, only three boyfriends dumped u so far. i know someone who is worse than that and believe me when i say she is still going strong, so let this motivate u but dnt forget to protect urself in all this...

Tash 1
06 Aug 2009 10:22

Juts hang in there, do not despair MR. RIGHT is coming your way.

dali
06 Aug 2009 10:23

lol loreal

love yourself enough to move on with your life if u r dumped!

lady gaga
06 Aug 2009 10:24

dali what did sis dolly say in her reply over this please share!

TerryN
06 Aug 2009 10:33

by dalisto and sis dolly

LMAO

what's worse is that one of my exes doesnt even bother to greet me anymore.

ROFLOL
Shame man!! On a serious note now...gal u need to take a brake from dating for a while (say 6 months) and assess yourself you will be amazed of the results...Trust me...Good Luck

Rgds
Terry (assistant kadalisto)

dali
06 Aug 2009 10:35

sis dolly answers

rejection is a painful experience. you may feel that the world is against you but its not.

im glad you're taking stock of your life and checking your role in the failure of these relationships, especially the one that seems to matter to you most. indeed, it does take two to tango.

its wise to appreciate your part in what may have gone wrong. but maybe its just that you havent found the right man who will love you for who you are.

every now and then you need to stop being too technical about love and just love with gay abandon. dont go out there to keep a man but to love him and who knows, the guy maybe willing to love you even more.

maybe you also need to stop expecting your exes to appreciate you. start loving yourself. its hardluck for those who dont wan to be part of your love. thats their problem dont make it yours.

zozoe
06 Aug 2009 10:36

you know Dali My F
i will need ansas from this sister , are they dumping her becoz of the same reason or what?

dali
06 Aug 2009 10:37

lmao @ terry my assistant

zolx
06 Aug 2009 10:40

i'd tell her to learn to move embedeni cos maan bonke bonke bayamshiya. she needs lessons on how to hluthisa the 2nd stomach of a man - the one below the belt.

dali
06 Aug 2009 10:41

it could be zoe, but i think anonymous has a low self esteem, she's still young she will still dump en get dumped. she must jst move on with her life, life is too short to dwell on de negatives.

belz
06 Aug 2009 10:43

LMAO!!!! I dont know why people are bothered by such things, honestly, this is not a problem at all, try being single for sometime, know and love yourself, then such things will not bother you.

belz
06 Aug 2009 10:45

Ewe zolx, if urocka ebhedini, even if we break up, thing is you will always greet me endleleni coz nje there is no way, you wotn want to.

MAPHOSH
06 Aug 2009 10:48

i feel your pain lovey you jst have to hang in there be strong and know that there is a guy for you out there .

Manthaka
06 Aug 2009 10:52

Hi;
Very interesting...
what's worse is that one of my exes doesnt even bother to greet me anymore.

I will tell her to ignore that stupid man. what kind of a man is that; I do not have an ex who is that stupid and not even speak to me when we meet. she must just take a break from dating; because in the end you end up oh qoma nje because you are desperate.

belz
06 Aug 2009 10:56

what does she mean when she says this ex ou?doesnt talk to her, does she greet her and then he keeps quiet?? LOL man. this is such a funny story, dali are you sure its not you?

sbu001
06 Aug 2009 11:01

lol @ belz .....dali are you sure its not you?

my thoughts exactly belz....!

myname
06 Aug 2009 11:07

Good Morning Fabulous bloggers,

Shame askis babes, ive been there (i was a dumper & dumpee lol) but who cares???? life goes on. Just enjoy ur singlehood babes, stop stressing, there is some1 for. Anyway everybody has some1.

But now im no longer single & its my birthday today (I tell every1 who cares 2 listen hihihihi) & i feel so grateful yhazi!

dali
06 Aug 2009 11:07

lol belz itz not me en im not running away im going to a meeting

later ppl!

belz
06 Aug 2009 11:10

myname wethu!!!! undishiye ndodwa kwisingle land, who is the lucky guy???

lady gaga
06 Aug 2009 11:12

thanx dali for sis dolly's reply, i always look forward to her replies, good stuff!

Happy Birthday myname! ukhule sisi!!!!

Pooky
06 Aug 2009 11:23

you allowed to do whatever you want today MYNAME phela it's your day mos.....iv already wished you on the Tashi blog but since its your special day, i'll allow myself to wish u once again, so......

                                      ♥ Happy Birthday Myname !!!!! ♥

zozoe
06 Aug 2009 11:27

Reply from: sbu001 8/6/2009 5:01:45 PM

lol @ belz .....dali are you sure its not you?

my thoughts exactly belz....!

kwa kwa kwa kwa
buahahahahahah

Happy befday myname

teev
06 Aug 2009 11:28

eyloooo bloggers'

ok, first of all there's nothing wrong with anonymous.... I mean she's been dumped only 3 times ebomini bakhe...that's nothing gal compared to what others are going thru.

ignore the one who ignores' u ozophuma nieks....(except if u still want to work something out with the dude)

there are still good man out there, don't search for them ma love---let them search and find you. u still young, an bet u beautiful and intelligent as well. Now sit-back, relax, take a break- n when u r ready to love again please do.

Happy b'day myname......mncwaaahh

myname
06 Aug 2009 11:29

LOL Belz, hlala ubanda wedwa LOL.

LG, Thank u so much sana.

belz
06 Aug 2009 11:33

yes, teev, yes yes yes!!! myname, im glad uba iyaphela iwinter, yhu, its jsut not a season for people like me. happy birthday again lala.

myname
06 Aug 2009 11:33

Guys i appreciate everything, u really dont know how i feel rite now.........Money & presents, hugs & kisses r coming left, right & centre.

Iyuuuuuuuuuuuuu kumnandi ukuba ndim

Pooky
06 Aug 2009 11:38

ukunike ntoni yena la bhuti myname....okanye yonke into izokwenzeka tonight hihihihhi ?

lady gaga
06 Aug 2009 11:39

myname, lucky you girl,only if we cud share the presents...lol

TerryN
06 Aug 2009 11:41

lol @ belz .....dali are you sure its not you?

my thoughts exactly belz....!

LMAO...haai bo uDali has been single since......forever

belz
06 Aug 2009 11:41

lol Pooky yintoni wethu ubhuti angayinika umyname ngaphandle kwechicken kebab,lol.

myname
06 Aug 2009 11:46

Im gonna get EVERYTHING Pooky i mean Everything a woman needs, thats what he said

jazzyree
06 Aug 2009 11:50

Lol!!! beign Dumped

Dont ask yourself where you are going wrong ask yourself where these guys are going wrong appreciate yourself as a worthy woman and those Men were never worthy of you.

I am single and loving it there is nothing wrong in taking time to yourself if you are a christian make this time your time to get closer to God.

BigMama
06 Aug 2009 11:52

Reply from: belz 8/6/2009 5:33:00 PM

yes, teev, yes yes yes!!! myname, im glad uba iyaphela iwinter, yhu, its jsut not a season for people like me. happy birthday again lala. Didn't you get married recently?????????????

Oh Dali the gal, must get a life and move on. They say if you miss one, you will catch one that has been missed. life goes on anyway.

Pooky
06 Aug 2009 11:52

LOL belzi
mmmmnnn nice, izimisele uku spoile le ndoda....haike myname you know that ndizobe ndilapha ke monday morning, inquiring ofcourse .......truely happy for you chomam vah ...have fun fun and more fun sana lam..mmmchwaa

teev
06 Aug 2009 11:52

iyhooooooooooooooooo....blessed is myname tonight ...kr kr kr angakugqibi ke mtshana...... mamela ke pero(ni) ungabhatyazi vhaa!!

myname
06 Aug 2009 11:58

Pooky im off on Monday maar i will b here on Tuesday.

Teev, i wont maar ndizomnika yonke LOL ......

teev
06 Aug 2009 12:01

(eqikileka yintsini menyo)......MNIKE-ARTHUR

belz
06 Aug 2009 12:03

Bigmama, umyeni wam' works at another province, so iyafana noba ndisingle.

Pooky
06 Aug 2009 12:04

ek sal wag myname

teev
06 Aug 2009 12:08

into efanayo ayiyo Belzitooo....lol.

GML
06 Aug 2009 12:15

Wha have these men complained about in the relationship? Have they said anything about the sex? Are you too demanding? Are your friends telling you what to do with your relationships? Are your friends forever around? Are you making time for this relationship?

I need this info before I could respond and give advise

Cody
06 Aug 2009 12:29

Happy Befday Myname!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥blowing kisses!!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

enjoy the new----> LOL!

Cody
06 Aug 2009 12:33

Haibo where is my icon, enjoy your new......."." hope it appears this time

Phikza
06 Aug 2009 12:41

Happy birthday myname!!!!

dali
06 Aug 2009 14:47

hepi bday myname! hope u enjoying it!

belz
06 Aug 2009 14:55

LOL GML. dali tell anonymous to answer now please.

dali
06 Aug 2009 15:07

lol i dont know where to get anonymous belz so GML must jst advice her based on what she has put on the table...lol

Loreal
06 Aug 2009 15:54

HARAMBE24
06 Aug 2009 21:52

gal..u need to bonk ure boyfriends well.....they wont leave u

Lela
06 Aug 2009 23:36

tl tl tl hayi nina ningaboyekwa, Happy bey bey Myname mtshana noba ndilate.

Ruby Red
07 Aug 2009 07:48

heheheeh, Harambe24, then you will be used and dumped too.

TerryN
07 Aug 2009 07:54

Harambe24, then you will be used and dumped too.

LOL

Ruby Red
07 Aug 2009 08:07

its never a gud idea to shag someone to prove a point or to please them, you do it for yourself.

Tash 1
07 Aug 2009 08:22

@Harambe, this is not abt bonking.

Ruby Red
07 Aug 2009 09:14

if you let a them, they wil take what they want and leave the rags, YOU behind.

odie
07 Aug 2009 09:32

Happy birthday Myname
Happy birthday Myname
Happy birthday to you sweety

Take care of yourself and your little one my dear and dont forget to spoil your self.

Ms personality
07 Aug 2009 12:41

hey sistaz , some ppl has experienced worse situation than yours , all you have to do mamah is to pray to God to give you the right partner , i once watched a movie titled "someone somewhere is made for you"...............We all have our pairs and so is your partner is out there waiting for you ,its just that for now you will meet all the wrong partners but for good reasons , you will make mistakes and you shall learn from them so when you finally meet your soul mate you will be well equiped to accomodiate him accordingly and you both shall have happy days together your tears will be wiped and there will be no more broken heart........... hang in there sistaz just respect and love your self ignore the nagative situation but look for positive within nagative.......the time will come and you will find the missing piece and your puzzle will be complete. i know God will never give you something you cant handle ,no condition is permanent! God created it to be like that whatever does not kill you makes you stronger. There is no grave for hardworking, faithful honest and reliable people live life honestly and energetically. Never surrender to the will of others we only have one chance to live.;...........
Take care mtwana.........

maud
07 Aug 2009 12:50

Happy belated myname. i am sorry i mised your special day,hope you had fun.

now let me read

Ms personality
07 Aug 2009 13:16

OH
and happy be lated myname we love you..............

maud
07 Aug 2009 13:19

after some few failed relationship, i told myself that i will never allow anyone to hurt me, so i started using and abusing and dump them when i am done, and i was feeling great.

then i met someone , also had the same idea of dumping him when i am tired of using him, after a year he left the country i was so lost and missed him so much ,i couldnt believe that it was me, he came back after 5 years, we continued with the relationship,but then i was also seeing someone else, phela 5 years is too long, he knew that the was someone else the competition was too tide on his side, he had to prove to me that he loves me more than the other (person.)
i was spoiled like hell

then one day he proposed , i told him i needed time to think, after a year again he proposed ,and i was still not ready , what i wanted was him to make sure that he can cope with the life style i am living because i never intended to change anything for anyone.

finaly i agreed and since then i have never been so happy in my life,

so guys what i am trying to say is to be dumped its nothing , maybe is because you are too good for them, its their lost, try to teach your self that not all the relationships are going to work out for you ,

and why should you care if your ex does not talk to you?, he is in the pass , concetrate on the future.

suzzy82
07 Aug 2009 13:26

maybe anonymous you rude that is the only thing that can make your e-x not to greet you
happy belated myname

Cutie Pie
07 Aug 2009 14:10

@ Teev : ok, first of all there's nothing wrong with anonymous.... I mean she's been dumped only 3 times ebomini bakhe...- She said she's been dumped 3 times from the beginning of this year, that means in 7 mont

u still young, an bet u beautiful and intelligent as well. - Hahaha..you remind me of men that want to dump you. they tell you that and complete the sentence by saying "I don't deserve you, you are better off without me"

@ HARAMBE 24 - gal..u need to bonk ure boyfriends well.....they wont leave u - U bonk them till you can't walk, but they still dump you when they want to. U go down there giving a BJ till you choke, but hey, if they don't love you, they'll leave you dear.

GML
07 Aug 2009 14:21

Cutie pie so negative.

Any advice???

JadaPinkett
07 Aug 2009 14:33

hawu shame sori to my sister getting dumped by 3 times nah there's something wrong with her.........maar why coz she's from Durban en she's suppose to go the sea en wash away all the bad luck she have.............LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

felfel
07 Aug 2009 14:37

I'm freakin bored!!!!!!!!!!! i'm gonna run away from work now.

Bfk loxy
07 Aug 2009 14:42

May be you too obsessive girl just relax and let loose. But here is something you should remember: Your prince hasn't come yet so you stil losing the Frogs. So cheer up. Bfk loxy

mathata
07 Aug 2009 14:44

girl you need to be sooo bitch.man likes bitches,but if you stand there like a stick they get confused.men dont believe in Mother Theresas.

if he ask for bread give him a toast.Study the person n try to be Prostitute in bed,Honey giveit to him n if you can.. ask for more,even if the body says NO honey just press n doit.

last thing..just say you are damn F** good,NOBODY hates SEX.

im sure you Not the type of women....where are you..those kind of Question.

@Dalisto, if you have that kind of problem come straight my love.

maud
07 Aug 2009 14:45

or maybe too cling some man hate commitment, when you start showing the signs of being cling,they run away very fast.

Msoe
07 Aug 2009 14:49

Bloggers why are we running away from the fact that being dumped isinyama? I have never been dumped before and I am scared of it. The guys who dumps this girl are just giving her bad luck mos. I can see why she is worried. Go to isangoma or umthandazi ntombazane uyokhipha lesi nyama, otherwise you'll be waving goodbye to man for the rest of your life.

Cutie Pie
07 Aug 2009 14:53

@ GML - Cutie pie so negative. Any advice??? - No GML am not negative @ all, just trying to point out reality

There is no book nor formulae to keep a man. We can say all we want to say, but its different strokes for different folks.

All I can say is that she's not the only one, she must just keep her head high and keep on trying. She must not lose herself to try to please someone, she must just be herself.

As for trying to be a "SUPERWOMAN" does not always work i.e cleaning his house, doing his laundry and cooking (mostly we don't like it, but we do it just to please them)...he can still dump you and it works for some and it does not work for others

For example, my knee caps are navy/black from cleaning my exe's houses, my hands have cracks from doing their laundry etc, but my fiancee found me when I was tired of all that crap. I mean I was not trying to impress anyone when I met him, he did his laundry, cooked his food sometimes (I would cook when I fely like it), but he proposed.

All I'm trying to say is that there is just no formula

mathata
07 Aug 2009 14:56

@Msoe, LMAO.

Ms personality
07 Aug 2009 15:01

@ Msoe lol........u crack me but that is so true...................... and these days i think being dumped is part of life.............

Ms personality
07 Aug 2009 15:09

All I'm trying to say is that there is just no formula ....................

@Cutiepie............amen to that sista

if you usually wake up @ 11:00 dont try to wake up at 5:30 to do his luandry and cleaning his house just to please him, coz one day you'll fail to do so and it will be difficult for him to get used to the new you than he will dump you

GQ
07 Aug 2009 15:11

Ponder this: Something from an article I once posted on TVSA

OK OK so you’ve been dumped…BIG DEAL.

Here’s the thing, I’m trying to understand the psyche of the dating man/woman (tall order I know) but please help me get some clarity on some of these questions.

1. Why is it that every time we come out of relationships especially if you’re the dumpee you feel as though it’s the end of the world?
2. Why do we end up doing elaborate things to try and snare the dumper back into the same trap he so obviously wanted to get out of?
3. Why do we always end up feeling like the world will cease to exist as we know it?
4. Why do we always want to do something vengeful especially vengeance that involves inflicting physical pain on the dumper?
5. Why is it that we can’t accept the situation for what it is, she/he dumped u for reasons only they are privy to?
6. Why do we get caught up in the drama of the breakup rather than the possibilities that the break up brings?
7. Why are we so dependent on others for our happiness and existence (songs such as you’re my reason for breathing come to mind). God gave you your own lungs and your own nose to breathe through so why would you give someone else the impression that they are so powerful that your breathing is dependent on their continued stay in an obviously unfulfilling relationship?
8. Why do we always have to find someone/something to blame for the sudden (sometimes not so sudden) end to a relationship?
9. Why is it that we can’t look beyond the emotional investment and in some cases financial investment made in the relationship & see it for what it is –OVA. KUPHELILE KUPHELILE.

Why not accept that the dumper has recognised his life's journey/mission and has realised that it does not include you?

Isn't it time we concentrate on what makes us happy as opposed to shedding too many tears over someone who's probably having a jol somewhere else with someone else?

Isn't it time you had a jol of your own??????

http://www.tvsa.co.za/default.asp?blogname=EverbeenSODRUNKthat&ArticleID=5849

monchooza
07 Aug 2009 16:42

sweetheart there is one thing that you must do to avoid being dumped....Jola ne Ou for a week bese Dump him before he dumps you...it does not matter ukuthi udumper abayingakhi wena nje just dump them within a week..then you will be the dumper not the dumped.....see its that easy stop stressing

nkamodira
14 Feb 2010 14:32

call me u wl be fine 0713259175

nkamodira
14 Feb 2010 14:32

call me u wl be fine 0713259175

Savanah Dry
14 Feb 2010 19:04

lol!! nkamodira

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