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Why do people have to lie?

Written by Sips from the blog Liar Liar .... on 08 Oct 2009
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Mabloggers this is my first time writing a blog – It might not be that… so please don’t shoot to kill

This is something personal but thought I’d share it with you. I’ve been single for some time and recently I meet someone (I thought I have) I asked the brother is he was seeing anyone and he’s was like no am not I’m not longer with the mother of my child. I thought okay, nice he’s single (where has he been??) we had this “friendship” thing going and it was going quite well. After some time he said the three words – I looked at him and smiled (thinking you’re not expecting me to say me too) think he saw them thoughts and he asked me if I loved him….I told him I wasn’t there yet…explained how I enjoy his company and how much I like him…and bla bla bla... he said he understands and we were okay

….One Saturday I phoned him – asked him if he had any plans for the day, he said not I said he could come to my place we could just chill and watch some dvd’s or something…this I wanted to cuddle on the couch coz it was cold and raining that day (please note the “or something”)… He said okay I’ll phone u when am coming – I was like sure…then he never phoned the entire Saturday, thought nam ke I won’t phone him. Sunday, still nothing (I was already pissed off by then) Monday morning I got an email at work from him saying “hey babes, I know I haven’t been a good person this weekend…was very busy. How are you doing” I looked at the email and thought what the hell am I suppose to say now…okay I won’t say anything – replied saying “am alright just hectic with work” 

I thought I’d get a call from him after work – you know explaining a bit more about the “busyness” of the weekend at least give me something more to chew…..I got nothing and at 2130 am starring at my phone and thinking – should I phone him or not – then I decided to call him – when I phone people the first thing I ask them is can they talk – did that and he said no I can’t – ndathi okay dropped the phone (thought not to allow my brain to think about what had just happened and it did) Comes the next day – still nothing from him – at 1930 I thinking can’t take this anymore WTF?? I phoned him – I said what the heck is going on, just be straight with me…tell me if you don’t want this anymore “oh no its not that I was very busy, are you angry?” I said what were you so busy with that you didn’t even have 2 min to call me… “the mother of my child just rocked up at my place with the child” – after a few seconds of silence I said WHAT?? What mother of your child? “the one I told you about” – I said “the one you told me about? Are you mad – what did you tell me about her? Did you said you were not together? “I did but the nature of our relationship is that she comes to my place when ever she feels like coming” I’m thinking this is unbelievable and am not talking about this anymore – I said okay bye – dropped the phone – went to my one of my galfriend’s place and told her esi-sifirifiri… 

From right then I decided that I want nothing to do with this guy…the ff day – he sent me an sms saying “you’re still pissed off” deleted the stupid sms right then – logged in on facebook, the guy’s status is “have you ever messed up that you don’t even know when to start apologising” am thinking oh my word I wished I wasn’t friends with this guy on face book….Weeks went by with no contacts or anything then early this morning I saw missed calls from him and when I was leaving I saw his footpaths in front of my door and on the side of the bedroom window (meaning he was knocking on the window) I don’t have a lockable gate so he parked then went in. I’m thinking what the hell was he doing there at 0120 in the morning - I phoned him, asked him what was he doing at my place at that time and he denied that he was there…I didn’t even argued that and I just said why do you have to lie and dropped the phone. Mabblogers why do people besenza isinto ezinje – what the hell is going on with him…There are people who are good at these things and there are those who’re just pathetic – I just hate a stupid liar who thinks he/she’s very smart at it…. So ma-bloggers tell me what doyou think of this crazy ass dude…



116 Comments

TheLady
08 Oct 2009 11:44

Does he stay next to Greenstone Mall?

TheLady
08 Oct 2009 11:45

Oh,can you make the HUGE 2nd  paragraph into 2/3 paragraphs please? I kept getting lost

Sslave
08 Oct 2009 11:52

kwa kwa kwa @ TheLady. I think he stays in Sunnyside pta. lol Guys can lie, ask me! Just leave his lying ass alone and move on girl. He's gonna waste your precious time.

beckyre
08 Oct 2009 11:57

ja neh. Shame girl u had to go through that. but all i can say to u is that most men are liars. they just can't get enough that is what i told my self.

cleve
08 Oct 2009 11:58

Same here the Lady, I found myslef reading the same sentence ove r and over again..

Anyways sips, that guy is still with the mother of his kid FINISH and KLAAR. Just forget about him, if he couldn't be honest about something so huge.

How do you knwo it's his footsteps....., maybe a burg;ar LOL

beckyre
08 Oct 2009 12:01

I agree with u on that one Sslave i know it is not easy but just leave the bastard or else u will have a heart attack thinking about the bastard.

BigMama
08 Oct 2009 12:17

l lie for fun, just to make people laugh, but when it comes to men, l lie to show them that they are not the only one's who know how to lie...

@Sips....But really my friend do you expect to meet a very single man nowadays? Mina l don't, l am no longer looking for love as l don't even know what it is, l am just looking for someone who can make me laugh and be there when nature calls.

ms.tebby
08 Oct 2009 12:24

l lie for fun, just to make people laugh,>>>>>>kwa kwa kwa kwaaaa! eish wena Bigmama , you are a problem child

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:25

Okay - i saw what you meant about getting lost - done the pargphs

No - he's in Cape Town @ the Lady 

cleve - he said they were not together - my quetionis why the hell did he have to lie and say that...

Big Mama - that saturday nature was calling .....lol

TKSM
08 Oct 2009 12:31

Sips.......who are you?

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:31

How do you knwo it's his footsteps....., maybe a burg;ar LOL clive i noticed the shoes that he liked when the thing was still going, so i know the footsteps from then and i could tell this morning that it was him - and the missed calls at that time 

Just leave his lying ass alone and move on girl. He's gonna waste your precious time
. that's what i've done girl but what the hell does he want now - he knows that i want nothing to do with him..

Smilo
08 Oct 2009 12:32

I saw his footpaths in front of my door and on the side of the bedroom window (meaning he was knocking on the window) I don’t have a lockable gate so he parked then went in. I’m thinking what the hell was he doing there at 0120 in the morning - How do you know it was his footpaths and the time??????

I asked the brother is he was seeing anyone and he’s was like no am not I’m not longer with the mother of my child. - no longer together but still inlove... I guess...

After some time he said the three words – I looked at him and smiled (thinking you’re not expecting me to say me too) think he saw them thoughts and he asked me if I loved him….I told him I wasn’t there yet…explained how I enjoy his company and how much I like him…and bla bla bla... he said he understands and we were okay  - then why are you hurting exactly???? the lies or that he is no longer that into you(spending time together).
The brother wanted a relationship and you were not ready so he dedided to go back to baby mama. maybe he felt that you are using him for whatever reasons.  I THINK...

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:33

TKSM -what do you mean who i am

GML
08 Oct 2009 12:34

I think that maybe he really wanted to apologise but his pride got the better of him.

He probably has a weird relationship with his baby mama and it complicates things.

Let him be dear.

At least he knows not to lie to you ever again. If he is ready to be an honest man he wil come back to you. If he still wants to lie then he knows to whom he shouldnt lie. that's you.

Be happy that you found out before you did the deed with him

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:36

@Smilo its the lies man - and he could have just said that he's still inlove

TKSM
08 Oct 2009 12:36

never mind.

Ava
08 Oct 2009 12:38

my quetionis why the hell did he have to lie and say that... 

to get in yo pants.some man are always looking for a score,no matter which method they go about it.that nite he came by yo place ,his baby mama probably refused to give him any and he was starved and looking for a little sumthing,sumthing.Guyz like that neva stick arnd much but they always come around wen in need of a f#*k.my advice,DROP HIS LYING ASS!!

Sana Lwam
08 Oct 2009 12:39

Gosh another "Dear Sis Dolly" article....lemme get back to silent blogging
Forget I even passed by.....***ecwayiza ukupuma**

Savanah Dry
08 Oct 2009 12:40

Baby Mama dramas if a guy tells me i have a child and they stay with the mother its a warning sign for me to stay away, ... i never date guys that tell me those words...

I would rather be single coz i know plenty of guys who keep doing it with the mothers of their kids behind their girlfriends back ...

Sslave
08 Oct 2009 12:41

Be happy that you found out before you did the deed with him
It doesnt matter if she already did or didn't, its not like she was a virgin before him anyway or was she? I HATE people who lie their ways to kuku's. What they don't realise is the hurt they are causing us poor girls. mother f***en pigz!!! I feel gud, nah, nah, nah, i though that i wud not nah, nah, nah so gud pa  pa so gud....

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:42

@Sanalwam..................................................

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:48

i had not done the deed - and Sslave is right - lying to get the ikuku is so lame 

BigMama
08 Oct 2009 12:48

“the mother of my child just rocked up at my place with the child”......For the guy to end the relationship with the baby's mother will depend on their break up (what really caused it) otherwise dear they will always be part of each other's lives.

l meet this guy at Fourways mall, exchanged numbers and the next day he phones and ask to met with and l agreed. On our second meeting he introduces me as his galfriend, and l was like no we a just plain friends...He emailed and contacted me for about 2months then stopped, l then sent him an sms asking how he was doing , he never replied.

l always hang at Fourways mall, when l was on my way to Edgars, l so the guy carrying a month old baby, he was so suprised and being the lady that l am l said holla howzit, with a colgate smile and moved on.

So dear Sips, just know that man will lie for anything and they will never stop. l don't allow any man to tell me that they love me, l simple tell them no dear you just want to taste my cake and thats it. If he is appealing to me l let him taste the cake and won't regret because l know he is not into me...

afternoon
08 Oct 2009 12:49

nature of our relationship is that she comes to my place when ever she feels like coming> i smell troubled relationship here & you as the stress reliever.

BigMama
08 Oct 2009 12:50

@Savanah Dry...Its true, they never stop doing it, and l have experience on that...

beckyre
08 Oct 2009 12:55

good one there BigMama.

Sips
08 Oct 2009 12:57

nature of our relationship is that she comes to my place when ever she feels like coming> i smell troubled relationship here & you as the stress reliever. I Thought so too afternoon...

lady gaga
08 Oct 2009 13:06

the problem began by him allowing his baby mama to visit anytime. he said they are no longer together so what's that all about. he must be the one to go and visit the baby mos,if the baby mama comes u must also be there. all in all, its good u left the pig,nx!!

Sips
08 Oct 2009 13:19

he said they are no longer together so what's that all about - he's answer was that - that's the nature of their relationship - so from that i figured that he was lying from the start (saying they're no longer together)

Smilo
08 Oct 2009 13:20

if the baby mama comes u must also be there.  why must she be there, they are not dating mos, only friends with benefits...

lady gaga
08 Oct 2009 13:27

@Smilo if that was the case then why u sips gets angry that all this is happening and the guy why does he have to lie????????????? (or maybe im confused)

Sips
08 Oct 2009 13:34

@Smilo - we were dating but i was not inlove with him just yet - so when he told me that he loves me, i couldn't say "i love you too" b/z i wasn't inlove with him and i told him the truth by saying i wasn't there yet....

Smilo
08 Oct 2009 13:41

@Smilo if that was the case then why u sips gets angry that all this is happening and the guy why does he have to lie????????????? (or maybe im confused)
@ lady G I'm confused too cos Sips uthi enjoys his company and she likes him and does not love him. maybe its me who doesn't understand ths "like" and "love"

Sslave
08 Oct 2009 13:41

Ok Sips he lied to you but you're not inlove with him, he didn't siga the cake, so its his loss. Case closed. Girl can you move on already?

Smilo
08 Oct 2009 13:44

okay Sips, I understand now... but nawe ngathi u confused just like him... and nami sengi confused... anyway sorry ke sisi, you will find someone soon.

Sips
08 Oct 2009 13:49

LOL....guys (@ Smilo & Sslave)....have moved on already, had nothing to do so i thought i'd share the whole thing with you guys just ukuhambisa is'khathi...

HARAMBE24
08 Oct 2009 14:44

and i thought ditabane had it worse...tjoo

lady gaga
08 Oct 2009 14:47

lol@ Hariri

TheLady
08 Oct 2009 14:53

If I had to count how many guys lied to me kungashona ilanga...some did a good job abanye babethath'amachance...I've heard the baby mama drama too...sengimdala maybe that's why I have since taken a break.

Sips
08 Oct 2009 14:57

and i thought ditabane had it worse...tjoo ....hahahahahahahahah @ Harambe

Superlady
08 Oct 2009 14:58

Lying is easy and cheap so people do it but the forget this "When you lie you will forget that lie and think of a new lie but if you tell the truth you will the the same thing over and over again"

Superlady
08 Oct 2009 15:22

Yah the footpath thing was a shock how do u know it was his? Girl just get a lock for you gate safety first  Men lie like no body's business I hate to go racial but Xhosa's are experts in that field and I believe that guy stays in Sunnyside Pta or could it be that one from Pretoria North? Girl please name ans shame this guy

Superlady
08 Oct 2009 15:25

Bigmama I am with u I am not looking for love anymore I actually tell men that I am just looking for a service provider so you win a tender and if you cann't provide a good service The next service provider is on stand by

Cande
08 Oct 2009 15:49

arent you supposed to be pregnant TL or was i dreaming?

Cody
09 Oct 2009 09:12

lol Cande.

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 09:41

Sips, I have more questions... which I hope you will answer, so I can better understand and help, if possible... AM still reading your article and replies, so don't shoot me if s/he has answered

<<I asked the brother is he was seeing anyone and he’s was like no am not I’m not longer with the mother of my child. >> Did you believe him?

<<After some time he said the three words – I looked at him and smiled (thinking you’re not expecting me to say me too) think he saw them thoughts and he asked me if I loved him….I told him I wasn’t there yet…>> had you davazad him?

BigMama
09 Oct 2009 09:42

@Superlady...l am glad l am not alone in that department, maybe miss t, will now believe me when l say, l don't have a boyfriend but a service provider.

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 09:43

<<One Saturday I phoned him – asked him if he had any plans for the day>> how long into the relationship was this? 3 weeks, 2 months or 6 months?  after how long had you davazad was this?

TheLady
09 Oct 2009 09:44

I am Cande...and yes I am single too...it happens.

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 09:44

<<I thought I’d get a call from him after work – you know explaining a bit more about the “busyness” of the weekend at least give me something more to chew…..I got nothing and at 2130 am starring at my phone and thinking – should I phone him or not – then I decided to call him>>bad move... he was in the wrong, he should have called you...

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 09:47

<<Weeks went by with no contacts or anything then early this morning I saw missed calls from him and when I was leaving I saw his footpaths in front of my door and on the side of the bedroom window (meaning he was knocking on the window) I don’t have a lockable gate so he parked then went in. I’m thinking what the hell was he doing there at 0120 in the morning >> booty call!!!!

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 09:49

Sips.....HE"S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU sisi!

@Hariri.....you ALWAYS crack me up

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 09:51

I agree with Sego....you need to make up your mind and stop giving mixed signals....one minute you can't bring yourself to tell the guy you love him...the next you get upset when he gets 'busy'......zukuzithakatha girlfriend!

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 09:52

<<ja neh. Shame girl u had to go through that. but all i can say to u is that most men are liars>> hey, hey, hey... lets not paint most of them with the same brush, only some are liars and it goes both ways... some women are also liars... lol

Sips
09 Oct 2009 09:53

@Segololo - I asked the brother is he was seeing anyone and he’s was like no am not I’m not longer with the mother of my child. >> Did you believe him? Yes i did

After some time he said the three words – I looked at him and smiled (thinking you’re not expecting me to say me too) think he saw them thoughts and he asked me if I loved him….I told him I wasn’t there yet…>> had you davazad him? No i hadn't
One Saturday I phoned him – asked him if he had any plans for the day>> how long into the relationship was this? 3 weeks, 2 months or 6 months? after how long had you davazad was this?  - 4 weeks into the relationship and there was no mdavazo yet - think that saturday was going to be the day - coz nature was calling on my side lol...

I thought I’d get a call from him after work – you know explaining a bit more about the “busyness” of the weekend at least give me something more to chew…..I got nothing and at 2130 am starring at my phone and thinking – should I phone him or not – then I decided to call him>>bad move... he was in the wrong, he should have called you... Okay - u're right but i just couldn't stand not knowing wht was going on....

monchooza
09 Oct 2009 10:02

sometime i lie because the truth can be boring..and amanga wami a very mnandi and interesting

Sips
09 Oct 2009 10:03

you need to make up your mind and stop giving mixed signals....one minute you can't bring yourself to tell the guy you love him...the next you get upset when he gets 'busy'......zukuzithakatha girlfriend!  @ Ngqesta - i never gave the guy mixed signals  - i don't understand why you're saying that - bring yourself to tell the guy you love him - i didn't love him just yet - so why would i lie to him and say i loved him (am not that kind of a person kaloku - i only tell people that i love them when i do) and i don't have the love at first sight thing - (what ever its called) -
anyway its over & as i mentioned yesterday i didn't have much to do and i thought i'd just share the whole thing....

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 10:03

<<I think that maybe he really wanted to apologise but his pride got the better of him.

He probably has a weird relationship with his baby mama and it complicates things. >>
Nc, nc , nc,nc... don't lie to Sips, GML... We will never know until HE tells her... Don't speculate, you make things worse because if she starts getting a soft spot for him from your statement, she is back in hot water... 

Sips, Stay focused... He hurt you, he told tales which seem to be lies because he has not come clean with the whole deal and from your side of things, he has not made any indication that he needs to apologise or be guilty for anything. There does not seem to be an attempt to come clean, as well. so he lied and you might never know why he did it...Is suspect it was to sleep with you.

The decision you need to make RIGHT NOW is do you want such a person in your special place (life and/or heart and/or cooch) ? Do you believe he really wants to BE with you? Do any of his actions show you that he loves you? Do any of his previous actions make you feel, believe and see that he really cares for you? Is this a way you want to deal with conflict with a person that says they love you; meaning he did wrong but has not shown any remorse and that is not how conflict is dealt with in a serious loving and respectful relationship - when you do wrong; or un/intentionally hurt someone you make amends and he hasn't! and the footsteps outside your house do NOT count as making amends - they were a booty call!

Cande
09 Oct 2009 10:04

ooh shame TL, sorry about that!!! But you will pull through girl. Take care of you and the little one!

Strolicious
09 Oct 2009 10:08

Sips does he drive a black BMW?

Katlegom
09 Oct 2009 10:12

One Saturday I phoned him – asked him if he had any plans for the day, he said not I said he could come to my place we could just chill and watch some dvd’s or something
i find hard to believe that this guy didnt pitch and you didnt have sex before, any guy will jump to this offer anytime


i dont understand why do women still fall to the lie of "im no longer involved with the mother of my kids"

GML
09 Oct 2009 10:13

Sego,

I was just merely stating that there could be endless possibilities as to the baby mama popping by any time. Hence I said and I quote "Let him be dear".

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 10:15

<<i dont understand why do women still fall to the lie of "im no longer involved with the mother of my kids">> sometimes it is NOT a lie... you never know. You need the guy to introduce you to this woman and take it from there... keeping her nameless and hidden is dangerous and usually spells trouble...

Katlegom
09 Oct 2009 10:15

does he drive a black BMW?
@Strolicious
i know you are the Master of things like these krkrkrkrtltltlkgkgkgkg!

Sips
09 Oct 2009 10:16

Sips, Stay focused... He hurt you, he told tales which seem to be lies because he has not come clean with the whole deal and from your side of things, he has not made any indication that he needs to apologise or be guilty for anything. There does not seem to be an attempt to come clean, as well. so he lied and you might never know why he did it...Is suspect it was to sleep with you.

The decision you need to make RIGHT NOW is do you want such a person in your special place (life and/or heart and/or cooch) ? Do you believe he really wants to BE with you? Do any of his actions show you that he loves you? Do any of his previous actions make you feel, believe and see that he really cares for you? Is this a way you want to deal with conflict with a person that says they love you; meaning he did wrong but has not shown any remorse and that is not how conflict is dealt with in a serious loving and respectful relationship - when you do wrong; or un/intentionally hurt someone you make amends and he hasn't! and the footsteps outside your house do NOT count as making amends - they were a booty call!
Sego - you couldn't have said it better - hell no i don't want such a person in my life, his action showed me that but now its clear that he was pretending coz he wanted the cake...

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 10:17

GML, I got that... BUT often people in pain need reassuarance that "I might be wrong, there has to be another reason s/he did this"... and your statements before the "Let him be dear" are often the ones remembered by th eprson in pain - never that crucial statement...   

Sips
09 Oct 2009 10:24

@Strolicious no he doesn't 

i find hard to believe that this guy didnt pitch and you didnt have sex before, any guy will jump to this offer anytime Well he didn't - maybe his baby momma gave gave him quite a slice...

blueroze
09 Oct 2009 10:25

Sips does he drive a black BMW?

hhehehehehehe
ba simolotse bo FBi
kwa kwa kwa kwa 

Stro expose the bugga

Strolicious
09 Oct 2009 10:42

blueroze wht if hs also a blogger....

Katlego im jst askng.

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 12:21

@ Ngqesta - i never gave the guy mixed signals - i don't understand why you're saying that -...well I think you were Sips....you tell him you can't tell him you love him........   then you still run after him with calls when he gets 'busy'.....for me those are mixed signals........either you want to be with the guy....you tell him you love him and go one with the relationship..........or you remain undeicded and accept that such things will happen....in which case you don't have a leg to stand on.....this guy does not owe you his loyalty as far as I am concerned...this is my opinion of cause

Segololo
09 Oct 2009 12:31

Ngqesta - So she should have also lied? Nc, nc, nc, nc... She did not love him... hau!

Sips
09 Oct 2009 12:40

@ Ngqesta and you're entitled to your opion...

Sips
09 Oct 2009 12:45

So she should have also lied? Nc, nc, nc, nc... She did not love him... hau! Thank u Sego -

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 14:28

@ Sips...Of coz I am sisi.....hence am voicing it....
@ Sego....am not saying she shud have lied .....(well at least I don't remember writing anything to that effect).....however I don't see why she shud be upset by whatever this guy does with his life....if everything Sips is telling us is as is...then in my view she has no right to be upset really, she does not love the guy afterall.....or so she says.

Sips
09 Oct 2009 14:39

 @Ngqesta please read -  we were dating but i was not inlove with him just yet - so when he told me that he loves me, i couldn't say "i love you too" b/z i wasn't inlove with him and i told him the truth by saying i wasn't there yet....

Cody
09 Oct 2009 14:53

Eintlek, how does this "I like u" and "I love u"thing work?huh?

mathata
09 Oct 2009 14:54

whats wrong to say I LOVE YOU TOO...d next day you can say i change my mind!......(i dont know what i was thinking to say that).....nobody owe anybody is part of life.love is like toilet paper.

Sometimes in affairs ppl lie because they feel shame for the next person.

he/she feel shame that she put you on a pan n someone will put you on a deep fryer,so what do you expect?

Cody
09 Oct 2009 15:00

love is like toilet paper. 


LMAO! i love you Mathata!

Sips
09 Oct 2009 15:02

whats wrong to say I LOVE YOU TOO...d next day you can say i change my mind!......(i dont know what i was thinking to say that).....nobody owe anybody is part of life.love is like toilet paper. mathata - what's wrong is that it'll be a lie and i don't lie about who i love & not love, to you its like a toilet paper to me its not ...not going to bother myself with your last line...CAN WE PLEASE MOVE ON!!

Best-Achiever
09 Oct 2009 15:06

Eintlek, how does this "I like u" and "I love u"thing work?huh? 

i want to know too Cody?

Sslave
09 Oct 2009 15:10

he/she feel shame that she put you on a pan n someone will put you on a deep fryer,so what do you expect? kwa kwa kwa i dont understand this statement but i cant help but lol at the pan and deep fryer.... thatha mathata

mathata
09 Oct 2009 15:13

@sips,thats my idea and is reality of life.

Love ,sex and desperation they dont get along.bfr you got to your king you must kiss many frogs....that is love

Sslave
09 Oct 2009 15:17

Eintlek, how does this "I like u" and "I love u"thing work?huh?
For me the difference between liking and loving someone is when i feel like ripping off your clothes to get to the bottom of the matter. i said FOR ME.

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 15:18

hayi Sips....I don't quite understand.........and please don't get me wrong...I am not judging you...however am also not familiar with this 'like' and 'love' business......maybe am just too old fashioned....don't mind me.

Sips
09 Oct 2009 15:19

Love ,sex and desperation they dont get along?????!!!!bfr you got to your king you must kiss many frogs.... tl tl tl tl..... Well we're all got dffrnt views on the matter...

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 15:22

Sips.....check this out whenyou got time.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p7BENaDDZlw

Best-Achiever
09 Oct 2009 15:27

For me the difference between liking and loving someone is when i feel like ripping off your clothes to get to the bottom of the matter. i said FOR ME.

and this Sips, is it love or like???? either way it means i have never either liked or loved anyone ...My Gosh

mathata
09 Oct 2009 15:28

i love you.......are heavy words they dont come easy from real ppl.men they dont use those words only when they are F**.

i like you....i think is like im on the way to love you,but far or maybe soon.

Sips
09 Oct 2009 15:34

i like you....i think is like im on the way to love you,but far or maybe soon - matatha you said it njena - so why are you shooting to kill me??....that's how i felt about the dude...and i wasn't wrong to tell him the truth...

Sips
09 Oct 2009 15:35

it was like BA

Sslave
09 Oct 2009 15:36

i like you....i think is like im on the way to love you,but far or maybe soon. or maybe never? i cudn't have said it better Thata's

can somebody tell why we're not allowed to drink alcohol during office hours? just 1nyana hle. I'm thirsty bathong?

belz
09 Oct 2009 15:36

kwakwakwkaakakawkawkawkawkaw!!!!! yhu, besendinilibele.

BigMama
09 Oct 2009 15:36


Eintlek, how does this "I like u" and "I love u"thing work?huh?

i want to know too Cody? Eish l don't understand why you don't know how this works...

Okay here it goes with me..."l like u", its someone l don't mind spending time with, l really don't mind kissing him, he is someone who l enjoy his company. We have somethings in common and understand each other. l like this person because when l look at him, l just smile, he makes me happy.l don't even mind having sex with him just for fun,

"l love you", is that person who is looking at the same direction as me (same goals), we have a lot in common, he is always there when l need him, we laugh and cry together, we share secrets and everything. l am absolute free to talk about anything with him, he is supportive and not a day passes without receiving a call, sms, email, telling me he misses me. It is that person that makes me proud, and l wouldn't mind to be found dead in his arms...He is everything great you could think of...

l am still in the" l like you" phase..

Sslave
09 Oct 2009 15:40

Hai BigM then i will die still looking for love mos tjo. That's a lot.

Sips
09 Oct 2009 15:43

Okay here it goes with me..."l like u", its someone l don't mind spending time with, l really don't mind kissing him, he is someone who l enjoy his company. We have somethings in common and understand each other. l like this person because when l look at him, l just smile, he makes me happy.l don't even mind having sex with him just for fun, - THANK YOU BM 

can somebody tell why we're not allowed to drink alcohol during office hours? just 1nyana hle. I'm thirsty bathong? -Come and work for us Sslave - fridays from 1500 we start drinking here - wine, ciders and play some drums...

belz
09 Oct 2009 15:44

deepness BigM!! nna i love you is, when i look in your eyes and i find myself saying i love you, no terms and conditions, i jsut love you, because your eyes are telling me the same thing. i dotn know if this makes me a vain person,lol.

mathata
09 Oct 2009 15:45

honey  dont  tell the truth,real love has a flavour n it always grow,but once you say .....i dont feel like......ears dont like real words,

takeit easy,.....bodiba ga bonyelwe,we takeit with the flow.

you are not wrong at all,is how you feel,n that s your opinion

belz
09 Oct 2009 15:47

grand grand love is overated, finish.

Ngqesta
09 Oct 2009 15:49

ok...if I hear you guys correctly....when you like the person you sort of want to be with him...but don't want to say the 'heavy' and committing I LOVE YOU words....then if that is there case....don't cry foul (and get all upset) when the person that told you he loves you goes on with his life while you're still in the 'liking' phase.....

I still want to know...Sips...what did you expect this guy to do really while you're still liking him...give you his loyalty while patiently waiting for you to tell him you love him??? Well....in my short life...there's very few guys who can actually do that...when you start using such words as 'LIKE'...you're being true to yourself yes (and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that)....however you're also taking a gamble...and I don't think it's fair to expect the other person to take the gamble with you...it was your decision not his.
I think its issues like these that give men the perception that women are complex creatures and yet in actuall effect we are not.

My take.....MAKE UP YOUR MIND AND BE WITH THE GUY...OR 'LIKE' THE GUY AND BE PREPARED for whatever get dished out the non-commital 'I like you' phase.

Once again...this is my opinion...and am sticking to it.

Sslave
09 Oct 2009 15:50

Hai Sips!!! i can work for your company anytime. i can even be a tea lady. i can do anything for wine, cider and beer anything. tell me why do you have to play drums again. i cant imagine me playing drums, worse when i'm drunk. it cud be chaotic.. is playing drums compulsory?

Cande
09 Oct 2009 15:52

Sslave i am also thirsty and counting down minutes!!!

monchooza
09 Oct 2009 15:54

its 2009 manje..who cares about love??????ngyadlala shem bantwana babantu

belz
09 Oct 2009 15:59

Ngqesta!!! you nailed it. le teng you dont want to be in a "like" phase with anyone forever, nna if i dig you, i really wanna hear you say you love me, so its only normal to reciprocate,.

mathata
09 Oct 2009 16:00

monchooza,100% true haikho ngyadlala laa.

@cande,drive safely.

Sips
09 Oct 2009 16:07

@ Sslave its just something that we all like (maybe not all of us...) yi guess its b/z whw one drinks they want to do somethting - mostly is dancing or talking out loud  - so b/z we're in the office and we each like different music - playing the drums seems okay to everybody....its not really compulsory - like now am not in middle earth (taken frm the lord of the rings - that's wht we call the middle room in the office) i've got my glass of wine at my desk and the others are there...

Ngqesta - i expected him to call me back and say he's busy - not to just vanish with no word like that....

BigMama
09 Oct 2009 16:09

Ngqesta.....Mina l am prepared for anything in the "l like you" phase, he can come and tell me that he is getting married at the end of the month, l will only wish him the best. In the "l like you" phase, l don't care "much", l won't break done when he tells me its over. For me its like an arrangement,

@monchooza.....Vele its true, who cares about love nowadays??????

Sips
09 Oct 2009 16:14

Big Mama - i gree with you - as long as he TELLS you right....that's all i was asking - to be told what's going on

Sslave
09 Oct 2009 16:17

@ Sips,  you lucky thang!!! glass of wine on your desk? oh my! counting metsotso. I'm left with metsotso e lesome tee le metsotswana e masome pedi tharo before i do the kiss of the Saahz hoop (sp).. Hang on Cande, hang on

Ava
09 Oct 2009 16:21

in the "l like you" phase, he can come and tell me that he is getting married at the end of the month, l will only wish him the best.

LOLest@BigM okay i have officially upped my level of respect for you.it takes one hell of a woman to give such a reaction.wow.

Cande
09 Oct 2009 16:23

yeah, love is overated!!!! but my love for booze is genuine, let me go. Will be going via picardi rebel on my way home... Luckily i dont have to drive Mathata as i am on standby and will be home the whole weekend! Addicts meet you on the other side over the weekend. Enjoy y'all...

PrinceBee
09 Oct 2009 16:48

Love is overrated this guy wanted your kukunaz love and wena you were way too slow for him then he went back to the mother of his child who was there all this time. he just wanted a makhwapheni. and when he cam back bekazisola afuna ikhekhe kuphela. lying part its part of the human nature love. live with it alot of guys have lied to me and this day and age i dont think theres love ngapahandle, manje ke ansara abanye abantwana udriva i BMW emnyama na?

Tshilo
13 Oct 2009 14:50

whats up with the black BMW

zbm
30 May 2011 15:27

HI GAL HE WASN'T MEANT 2 BE WITH GAL SO DON'T LOOK BACK

VusiK
30 May 2011 15:43

Ngozofunda late tonight Ke!

VusiK
30 May 2011 16:36

You were not in love with this CAT ... why are you all worked up ? People lie all the time ... I know almost all women & most men lie ... It's why I'm single at my age ... but ... If he lied ... get rid of him. If it's just your imagination running wild ... get your mind straight before seeing anyone. Know what you want and what you're getting yourself into first ... before going too far in.

VusiK
31 May 2011 13:08

If you live your life in supposition, you are guaranteed to fail ... investigate the facts, if the facts are inconsistent and require interrogation... so be it ... one cannot thumb-suck the truth about facts .... either they are a particular way, or they are not.


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