2010

Written by Tshd21 from the blog A trip 'round Tshd21's mind.. on 01 Dec 2010
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It's Saturday, 20th November, 2010 just after 2pm. I get an SMS reading: "T is no more, car accident".
I respond with a phone call, in shock, only to find out that Big M has also passed away in the same accident. Two people, dead, and no one to explain what happened because they didn't hit any thing/one. That is just a portion of many heart-breaking incidents that happened in my life this year.

Months earlier, I buried a cousin and a grand mother two weeks apart. In between the four deaths, my health sank to an all time low where I now find myself taking medication for the rest of my life. Just when I thought I couldn't sink any lower, since my finances took 10 steps backwards with all the money I spent moving from one specialist to another, I had chicken pox, bloody chicken pox of all things. I now look like someone took a black pen and drew spots all over my body. I seriously thought I had passed the stage of skin problems with my teenage years. Tjerr! Anyway...

Yep, my 2010 was a mess. Which brings me to the point of this article (lol):

How was your year?
Was it good or bad?
What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?
What are you hoping for in the new year and,
Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year?

Mine was filled with drama but in the midst of it all, I matured. I survived, have scars to prove it but I made it. I am hoping for a better year, no major health issues and no deaths, God, I can't take it anymore. I know I can't control when loved ones' can depart but geez, I just wish I don't deal with any of the ish I dealt with this year.

So come on people, let's share...
If there are any challenges in particular that you went through this year, please advice others who could be in the same situation as to how they should overcome them, part of living is learning after all...

Let's do this...

13 Comments

Tshd21
30 Nov 2010 15:16

How was your year?
It was filled with challenges, poor health and heartache...

Was it good or bad?
Good and bad. Even though I experienced intense situations, a lot of lessons were learned...

What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?
I was frustrated because I kept taking medication which was not working. I recently started a treatment and so far so good. What kept me calm? I don't know...

What are you hoping for in the new year?
Good health...

Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year?
Yes. I only had two things that I wanted to do before the end of this year: Buy a second bed for my place and install DSTV, done, LMAO

carino
30 Nov 2010 16:08

Eish, Tshdi.. I started reading this.... too emotional.. this year was such an emotional rollercoaster.. it still is..

I'll come back later...

carino
30 Nov 2010 16:29

WTH..

How was your year?

Eish, wena.. this year was too much, nje.. I’m just glad it’s ovas.. As much as there is a lot to thank God for, there’s still a lot that hasn’t settled yet. The one thing that I will remember more than the World Cup is my sister’s sudden 1month long battle with cancer… and her death when we still had so much to look forward to for the future. As much as we have now assured our hearts that it something God allowed to happen, it will be a while until my heart rests on that fact… and just learns to live with the fact that she was here and now she is not anymore.

Was it good or bad?

I am just not sure anymore.

What got your blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?

Blood boiling??? Definitely love.. the right kind of boiling, of course.
Calm down?? Honestly, I don’t remember ever being calm.. Strange, I know..but this year was so rushed…

What are you hoping for in the new year?

More peace… and many more encounters with the greatness of God. And more meaningful time spent with friends.

Have you achieved everything you wanted to this year?

Definitely not everything. I had initially marked this year in my calendar as my last 12 months in the Cape and it’s now December and I am happy I am looking at a good extra 4 years of my relationship with table mountain. It’s wonderful of course but it’s still against what I had planned to achieve… and it has badly affected my other plans that had to do with leaving this place.

Green.arrow
30 Nov 2010 18:09

Heish Tshd21 .... i just left work, to have a bit of a breather, had an emotional and physically hectic day owing to the year that 2010 has been. The plan was to sit and just stare into space, regroup and recoup and reflect on the day and get back to work ...or live it for tomorrow. And so as i am in the spirit of reflecting on the day, might as well reflect on the year using this platform Thank you sisi, plus i have been promising my journal i will do that and i havent...so i'll share my bit of 2010 and this article will be bookmarked, printed and slotted in the journal.

How was your year?
WoW. The year started frastatingly slow and hard for me, but it is beginning to pick up pace as I have also been picking up pace holisticly speaking. Albeit ..the pace is coming about towards the very end of the year,but im gratefull that there is pace after the struggle that i went through to get it back again. I read carino says she is glad its over, but i wish i can prolong it a bit so that i can meet my desired objectives because i am in better health and spirit now and my body,spirt and mind are co-ordinating and im able to work...lots of work and things to get through,yet so little time. But i have accepted that everything that was supposed to be achieved now will be finished next year.
I have also accepted the cost or concequences associated with those deferred objectives, and being in the good helath and spirit that i am in...im good for all that needs to be done as the year ends and in the new year.... moving forward.

Was it good or bad?
Whilst i started on the lowest note(holistically), im just greatfull that hard and slow as it was, im ending off at a better place than i was when the year started. So i'd say based on the ned...its all good.

What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?
What got my blood boiiling really was how hard and slow my recovery was. i wanted so bad to snap out and be well so that i can get on with things but it was too damn hard and slow.

What are you hoping for in the new year.
To finish up the work and projects that have been deffered and finish them good. I will have nothing but excellence. And as i get better and better and stronger and stronger i am gratefull each day and I ask each day that God keeps me good health and spirit so that I CAN TRULY LIVE, trully live life abundantly, worship Him with the works of my hands and in service for His people.
I leant a great lesson which is that if you are not in good heealth and good spirit, all your plans however massive and brilliant will not happen because you need yourslef in one piece to be able to realise those plans. Moving forward I will take good care of myself....holistically.

Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year?
I guess the biggest achievemnet is being well, being able to WAKE UP. it has been a frastratingly hard two years. fought the biggest fight of my live. My very own cold war and im glad that im emerging, and i feel that im emerging a better person. The scripture vthat says ALL things work out for good to those who trust in God is coming Rhema in my life. I feel like God literally tore down the foundation on whuch i stood (which was very toxic) and we started anew. As with creating everything from scratch, its harder in the begining, Or as with a baby learning to walk, they fall get up fall get up, but i have found my feet again and ITS ON.

Green.arrow
30 Nov 2010 18:19

And i want to note with gratitude that in this two years, as all this things were happaning, TVSA was my best company. I isolated myself to a very dangerous extend,literally and figuratively speaking,because it was easier...(side eyeing makisto..), but tvsa was sort of my link to the outside world. It contributed to my air supply you could say, because although i was isoltaed i wasnt quite alone, i was still relating, with strangers yes (because it was easy),but i was relating... I still was in some kind of fellowships that edified my spirit so i dont die within (missing Cody and the gang ko cell group), reading people's stories here on tvsa encouraged me as well, made me see other people and their situatrions outside of my own. I have leant, and grew. And i now that starting next year as things will be picking up i wont have that much time for tvsa...and i'll miss this place. its such a strange strange thing...but this place means a lot to me.
xoxoxoxoxoxox...TVSA.

PS: i have been making efforts to reintergrate...to live, family, friends, fellowship (church) etc....even that started in babysteps....AM still a work in progress. Progress being the operating word.

Green.arrow
30 Nov 2010 21:15

GREAT NAP. kanti were are the night bloggers?

Just wanted to add also that:
What are you hoping for in the new year?
Good health...
@ Tshd21..I pray you good health sisi. The situations may have been different, but i understand how it feels to just need that in order to take care of the rest of life. O fole hle...and the best way you can,be good to yourself.

Tshd21
30 Nov 2010 21:25

There are no night bloggers anymore GA, lol. Sorry about the tough times you having, le wena Carino, am sorry about your loss :-( And thanks GA, I really am also praying for good health, eish

MAGNET2DISASTER
01 Dec 2010 07:30

for me 2010 was a year of missery,deceit and all the bad stuff one can think of,i lost cousins and friends,i was traumatised and fell into depression.i broke up with my boyfriend wwho had put me through a lot and broke my heart to pieces.thats when i started blogging here and i got to chat to people i have never met before and yet they always say the right things and the most unusual thing is i dream of this people even though i have never set my eyes on them.so this year i have"you guys"to be thankful for,now i even think i am in love................................

Toodecent
02 Dec 2010 13:11

How was your year?
It was a turning point for me this year, got closer to GOD leanrt to understand him and how he speaks to us. Quit my job, was unemployed for 2 months and never went hungry cause he provided. Then got another one even better... it was a year of change in my life.
Was it good or bad?
I started it with a bang, then got a little low then its getting there.. ending it with a loud bang manje.
What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?
Love, I have never gone through what I went in my entire life. Got to realise that you can be what a woman wished for and even more but that doesnt mean she will be in happily ever after le wena. Such is life.. Calmed me down?GOD yeah he did..
What are you hoping for in the new year?
Am close to reaching the target year and time when I want to be in a home with little me running all over the house with mme wa ko ntlong around. Anyway...yeah in the New Year am looking forward to being a father, I would love to have a kid...with who i dont know.
Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year?
In a way I did, but I want more...spend most to the time this year sorting myself and ish out..I want to get to that not 1 spot in the new year...get those big things.

Mathaz
02 Dec 2010 13:49

How was your year?
It was really traumatic in the beginning, my marriage was in a turmoil, even filed for divorce but i am glad to report that everything is fine now. It was just a roller coaster year for me but God has been with me throughout.
Was it good or bad?
The good outweighs the bad but whatever bad stuff i experienced, they made me stronger and appreciate my family and what i have more.
What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?
My husband was at most times aimed at my wrath and my son, just calmed me down.
What are you hoping for in the new year?
I am giving birth to my second child, early next year so i am looking forward to holding him and also financial stability, a new house, new car, blessings nje...
Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year?
80% of the things that i wanted, i have achieved but it was just by God's grace and mercy and the abundant love that he has got for us.

Life is not smooth sailing, we all go through good and bad times but that does not make us any better or less.

Sdakamiswa
05 Dec 2010 22:06

How was your year? Its been a very difficult year professionally and personally, the job has been very challenging., realised that the job ivr been doing is not something I want to continue doing, am hoping ill be able to change that sooner rather than later Was it good or bad? Bad bad bad nothing went rite What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout? Blood boiling - nothing really Calmness - I am a very calm person I guess it came from within What are you hoping for in the new year and, Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year? I've had only. 1 resolution for the last 4years and I have not achieved it, 2011 is a chance to try again Zero achievements in 2010

jinxed
13 Dec 2010 13:46

How was your year?
i would say great, with all its ups and downs, achievemnrts and failures.

Was it good or bad?
it started off bad- i had just broken up with my ex fiance i had dated for six years, i was going through emotions and could not believe it ended but i am good now

What got you blood boiling or calmed you down throughout?
i got angry when i would miss my ex and still cry over him even though i did not want him back, i got angry when things at work are still the same and they do not see the need to change even though we desperately need it.

i got angry when there was a family feud when we wanted to unveil tombstones of our late relatives but was clamed when everyone came to thier senses and the event was successfully held last weekend.

i was calmed by the fact that i was achieving my goals and i am always calmed by the fact that i have supportive family who are wiling to sacrifice for me
What are you hoping for in the new year?
a car, an SLR camera, growth of my business, a child happiness and that i wont have to bury anyone close to my heart.

Have you achieved every thing you wanted to this year?
i have launched my kids part y planning company in Otcober it has been keeping me on my feet since then. despite the heartbrake i am now dating a man i just adore and love. i am doing slow progress with my studies and i hope to get them right in 2011

Blaq princes
02 Apr 2011 10:51

2010 was a bad year for me. Also fell into depresion, for no apparent medical reason. Had to drop out of vasity in order to recover. I stayed for months at hospital but to this day no one knows what triggerd it. Mind you i was only 18 last year.

in this new year im back at school, thankfully, and so far i am doing OK, though i have days where i feel like im going back into that state of mind

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